"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This is what happened today at school:

I was leaving school and there was a teacher (a kind of a joker) and a class with a hottie from our school. It was just me on the whole corridor. The teacher made some comment (dunno what it was) and the whole class was looking at me laughing.

To make it clear, I'm not at all insecure about this, but I thought a good opener for tommorow would be:

"Hi, may I ask you a quick question?"
"Sure."
"What was so funny yesterday when <... i would describe the situation here ...>?"

But I'm not sure if it wouldn't sound too awkward or worse, insecure. Thanks for answering my q.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ok the first advice is do not try too hard. Remember u are not qualifying urself, u are qualifying if she is good enough. And just have fun with her!

As for saying it doesn't matter use correct tone of voice a little playful, try to tease her with body language
 

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okay here is where you are going wrong....dont say "hey may i ask you a question...blah blah..."

Firstly you don't need any fu(king permission to ask somebody a question. Say "hey i missed the joke yesterday...what was it?"

Never say excuse me, may I, do you have time..?, dont do it....just ask.

When asking the question use body language to convey your time restraint. shift your body so you talk over your shoulder...as though you are about to walk away......

-Respect
 
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Originally posted by LiveStrong
okay here is where you are going wrong....dont say "hey may i ask you a question...blah blah..."

Firstly you don't need any fu(king permission to ask somebody a question. Say "hey i missed the joke yesterday...what was it?"

Never say excuse me, may I, do you have time..?, dont do it....just ask.

When asking the question use body language to convey your time restraint. shift your body so you talk over your shoulder...as though you are about to walk away......

-Respect
Thank you.

Just for information, I put together a cover to ask ... I will probably say that I bet with my friend what it was to not sound like a little boy who was thinking about this incident all night long.

I'll post a report tommorow to this thread.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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