Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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This is what happened today at school:

I was leaving school and there was a teacher (a kind of a joker) and a class with a hottie from our school. It was just me on the whole corridor. The teacher made some comment (dunno what it was) and the whole class was looking at me laughing.

To make it clear, I'm not at all insecure about this, but I thought a good opener for tommorow would be:

"Hi, may I ask you a quick question?"
"Sure."
"What was so funny yesterday when <... i would describe the situation here ...>?"

But I'm not sure if it wouldn't sound too awkward or worse, insecure. Thanks for answering my q.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ok the first advice is do not try too hard. Remember u are not qualifying urself, u are qualifying if she is good enough. And just have fun with her!

As for saying it doesn't matter use correct tone of voice a little playful, try to tease her with body language
 

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okay here is where you are going wrong....dont say "hey may i ask you a question...blah blah..."

Firstly you don't need any fu(king permission to ask somebody a question. Say "hey i missed the joke yesterday...what was it?"

Never say excuse me, may I, do you have time..?, dont do it....just ask.

When asking the question use body language to convey your time restraint. shift your body so you talk over your shoulder...as though you are about to walk away......

-Respect
 
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Originally posted by LiveStrong
okay here is where you are going wrong....dont say "hey may i ask you a question...blah blah..."

Firstly you don't need any fu(king permission to ask somebody a question. Say "hey i missed the joke yesterday...what was it?"

Never say excuse me, may I, do you have time..?, dont do it....just ask.

When asking the question use body language to convey your time restraint. shift your body so you talk over your shoulder...as though you are about to walk away......

-Respect
Thank you.

Just for information, I put together a cover to ask ... I will probably say that I bet with my friend what it was to not sound like a little boy who was thinking about this incident all night long.

I'll post a report tommorow to this thread.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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