"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Open mind" versus "close minded" pros and cons?

mrgoodstuff

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For the "close minded" say the person is pessimistic and also an incel who thinks all women will do you dirty and have unreasonable standards.

For the "open minded" person this person is ambitious and will make friends with different personalities. The "open minded" person also has ambitions of their own, so they aren't being steered or controlled by others. They simply will consider other views and adjust theirs for greater success.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mrgoodstuff

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Well you could have close minded ultra alpha dude who is too dominant. Also ineffective
On this site if he's having sex when he wants and is successful in his career/business then it's an acceptable form of "close mindedness".
 

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Closed minded assumes you know everything. Good luck with that lol.

Another problem was being close minded is you could be operating based on information that WAS correct but is now outdated.

I’ll vote for being open minded.
That makes sense.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mrgoodstuff

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I would say being too open minded will make you a target for those with malicious intent.
One needs a close mind in the particular areas that one with malicious intent would exploit. Those people need to be identified quickly and DROPPED!.

A thought did occur to me that is useful. As men we have to ensure that our needs and standards are met. Compromising these even a little bit will get us overrun and degraded.
 

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Close mindedness is never good.

There are many members here that fail to see their own shortcomings (we all have ‘em - self included) but instead always blame the female.
 

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Close mindedness is never good.

There are many members here that fail to see their own shortcomings (we all have ‘em - self included) but instead always blame the female.
I grouped "incel" as a "close minded" view. Many have a pessimistic thought loop that keeps them in that reality. When there are "successful" ways of thinking in the modern environment.
 

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Why does the close-minded person have to be pessimistic AND and incel lol. You're really painting this black and white. You can be close-minded and not be a literal depressed incel...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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While I support being open-minded, I agree that you shouldn’t be too quick to change your mind. Make sure you have some fairly good reason to do so.
Yeah like asking, hook vs uppercut? Even alpha vs beta isnt always clear. There is a place and time for the both of them.

A man needs to be fluid and adjust accordingly.
 
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