"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"Open mind" versus "close minded" pros and cons?

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For the "close minded" say the person is pessimistic and also an incel who thinks all women will do you dirty and have unreasonable standards.

For the "open minded" person this person is ambitious and will make friends with different personalities. The "open minded" person also has ambitions of their own, so they aren't being steered or controlled by others. They simply will consider other views and adjust theirs for greater success.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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mrgoodstuff

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Well you could have close minded ultra alpha dude who is too dominant. Also ineffective
On this site if he's having sex when he wants and is successful in his career/business then it's an acceptable form of "close mindedness".
 

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Closed minded assumes you know everything. Good luck with that lol.

Another problem was being close minded is you could be operating based on information that WAS correct but is now outdated.

I’ll vote for being open minded.
That makes sense.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I would say being too open minded will make you a target for those with malicious intent.
One needs a close mind in the particular areas that one with malicious intent would exploit. Those people need to be identified quickly and DROPPED!.

A thought did occur to me that is useful. As men we have to ensure that our needs and standards are met. Compromising these even a little bit will get us overrun and degraded.
 

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Close mindedness is never good.

There are many members here that fail to see their own shortcomings (we all have ‘em - self included) but instead always blame the female.
 

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Close mindedness is never good.

There are many members here that fail to see their own shortcomings (we all have ‘em - self included) but instead always blame the female.
I grouped "incel" as a "close minded" view. Many have a pessimistic thought loop that keeps them in that reality. When there are "successful" ways of thinking in the modern environment.
 

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Why does the close-minded person have to be pessimistic AND and incel lol. You're really painting this black and white. You can be close-minded and not be a literal depressed incel...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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While I support being open-minded, I agree that you shouldn’t be too quick to change your mind. Make sure you have some fairly good reason to do so.
Yeah like asking, hook vs uppercut? Even alpha vs beta isnt always clear. There is a place and time for the both of them.

A man needs to be fluid and adjust accordingly.
 
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