"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"Open mind" versus "close minded" pros and cons?

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For the "close minded" say the person is pessimistic and also an incel who thinks all women will do you dirty and have unreasonable standards.

For the "open minded" person this person is ambitious and will make friends with different personalities. The "open minded" person also has ambitions of their own, so they aren't being steered or controlled by others. They simply will consider other views and adjust theirs for greater success.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well you could have close minded ultra alpha dude who is too dominant. Also ineffective
On this site if he's having sex when he wants and is successful in his career/business then it's an acceptable form of "close mindedness".
 

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Closed minded assumes you know everything. Good luck with that lol.

Another problem was being close minded is you could be operating based on information that WAS correct but is now outdated.

I’ll vote for being open minded.
That makes sense.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I would say being too open minded will make you a target for those with malicious intent.
One needs a close mind in the particular areas that one with malicious intent would exploit. Those people need to be identified quickly and DROPPED!.

A thought did occur to me that is useful. As men we have to ensure that our needs and standards are met. Compromising these even a little bit will get us overrun and degraded.
 

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Close mindedness is never good.

There are many members here that fail to see their own shortcomings (we all have ‘em - self included) but instead always blame the female.
 

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Close mindedness is never good.

There are many members here that fail to see their own shortcomings (we all have ‘em - self included) but instead always blame the female.
I grouped "incel" as a "close minded" view. Many have a pessimistic thought loop that keeps them in that reality. When there are "successful" ways of thinking in the modern environment.
 

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Why does the close-minded person have to be pessimistic AND and incel lol. You're really painting this black and white. You can be close-minded and not be a literal depressed incel...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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While I support being open-minded, I agree that you shouldn’t be too quick to change your mind. Make sure you have some fairly good reason to do so.
Yeah like asking, hook vs uppercut? Even alpha vs beta isnt always clear. There is a place and time for the both of them.

A man needs to be fluid and adjust accordingly.
 
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