"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
open-ended questions
- Thread starter L0bsang
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
slitherjef
Senior Don Juan
Seriously, she is a person, just like you, there is no special questions to ask her. If you really need help, start with something like, "Hey, how was your day?" Or, "What do you like to do in your free time?"
Dongfu
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actually, these are closed ended. She can simply say, "good thanks," and "nothing in particular."slitherjef said:
open questions are ones like. "how do you feel about hillary being the first woman president?"
basically anything that will stir her feelings and lure her into the conversation.
slitherjef
Senior Don Juan
Did not think of it that way. Thanks for the correctionDongfu said:
