"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

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Re: w00t

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i would NEVER let the chick stay in my place & sh!t after the 1st time meeting her.. i would go on a few "dates" 1st and get to know her better before doing that.... or a motel room would do if u want to bang her on the 1st night u meet her;)
Why? I have no money so she can't steal anything. What is your main concern? You've never have a ONS at your place?
 

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Well i DO have alot of things in my house that are of great value, and letting this woman into my house is just not on (unless i know her)

Its just like letting a totall stranger into your house!

You dont know what kind of chick this is, u dont know if she has psycological problems! U dont know if u will wake up with her gone, WITH some of ur valuebles.
heck, for all u know, she might even be a psyco killer:rolleyes:

Unless i know the chick and seen her before, there is NO chance that she will enter my house.

If i was that desperate to bang her then and there, i would take her to some cheap motel or something. (which i would make her pay at LEAST half for;) )

Thats just me, but u can feel free to let strangers into your house, but when u come across the wrong girl, dont blame me:p

Laterz...
 

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Haven't you ever been on a date and invited her in? Have you not had a ONS at your place? Sure, she might be crazy but even if she doesn't sleep there, she could kill you or stalk you just as easy if you go there and watch a movie or something and drop her off home later.
 
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I second that, just because i dont have much experience of women in my house doesnt mean I realize that there are ****loads of sick cookies out there
 

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{-_}{_-}

xblitz44x: overall, no, i have never invited a girl that i have met for the 1st time in my life into my house. Unless its a girl that if already friendly with someone that i know.

seize_the_pattern said:

I second that
Who's post? mine or xblitz44x? I dont fully understand your post, plz explain:)

xblitz44x said:

she could kill you or stalk you just as easy if you go there and watch a movie or something and drop her off home later.
When i said that she might be a "psyco killer" i was not being serious, just used it to prove my point and perhaps add some humour. The main thing that worries me is that i dont know if when i wake up she will still be there next to me, or if she will be long gone with half of my household;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Some of you guys are worse than women. "Oh no, she might be scary and hurt me. Can't let her in my house!!!" haha

I'm willing to bet this is just some way to rationalize why you never have women over your house.

There's risk in everything worthwhile, my friends. Don't be so timid that you close yourself off to the curious possibilities of human interaction.
 

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I've considered trying to the online thing a few times, but really I haven't seen ANY 8s or 9s. I haven't ever signed up for any of these personals sites, but I've used their search engines for my area & there just isn't any hot girls on there.

There are, however, many people who don't post their picture. When you guys say you meet these 8s and 9s, are you emailing people who don't have pictures up? Or do you only focus on the ones with pics?

I guess I can see why Soma has luck. He's in a good location. All the searches I've run on these websites for my area has turned up two things:

1) Ugly girls with pictures.

2) Girls with no pictures.
 

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Originally posted by Soma
Some of you guys are worse than women. "Oh no, she might be scary and hurt me. Can't let her in my house!!!" haha

I'm willing to bet this is just some way to rationalize why you never have women over your house.

There's risk in everything worthwhile, my friends. Don't be so timid that you close yourself off to the curious possibilities of human interaction.
Soma.... just for the record.... I have chicks coming to my house EVERY DAY, and not just 1 or 2, but many of them! I know more than enough girls (most of them being 7's and above)... so why would i need to risk bringing a totally strange girl into my house when i got so many coming as it is?

And i neva said that i would never let her in, i said that after meeting her 1 or 2 times, and gotten to know her better, THEN i would invite her over for sure.
 

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Originally posted by xblitz44x
Haven't you ever been on a date and invited her in? Have you not had a ONS at your place? Sure, she might be crazy but even if she doesn't sleep there, she could kill you or stalk you just as easy if you go there and watch a movie or something and drop her off home later.
Been there, done that... I haven't had a stalker lately though, hmmmmm.... I hope I'm not loosing my touch. :p
 

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Originally posted by Soma
...There's risk in everything worthwhile, my friends. Don't be so timid that you close yourself off to the curious possibilities of human interaction.
Words to live by...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

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Affliction:

Yeah, your area definitely will play a part in the girls. City areas will have more women and more attractive women to choose from.

I NEVER EVER email a girl who doesn't have a picture. Even then, I almost always make sure to see several recent pictures of her which includes shots at varying distance/poses. That way I can see her face, body, style, body language, etc.


Aequitas:

Everyone is a stranger at first. You're not going to learn any dark secrets within 2-3 dates that you haven't already suspected in the first 30 mins.
 
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Re: {-_}{_-}

Originally posted by aequitas



Who's post? mine or xblitz44x? I dont fully understand your post, plz explain:)

The seconding of your posting is what I did ;)
 

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Re: Re: w00t

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Why? I have no money so she can't steal anything. What is your main concern? You've never have a ONS at your place?
I have had all kinds of ONS at my place...its just that when Im done...they leave...Dude, I sleep HARD, and noise don't wake me up. All some chik has got to do is reach over to my pants, grab my wallet, get dressed and out the door she goes. Or sh it, why not grab my cell phone, laptop, IPOD, digital camera and my rolex watch while she is at it. :D

Nothing wrong with havin strangers at my place....as long as I can keep an eye on em. Once I have got 2 know a chik for a few weeks or a month, meet the family/seen where she lives would I trust em around my stuff

Call me cynical, but I have been at parties and stuff and have seen first hand people stealing from other strangers.....Shoot, the stuff I have seen stolen from dorm rooms in my college days would absolutely AMAZE you. I remember a particular time at this dorm party during the winter where this guy that was a friend of a friend swiped a laptop down his baggy pants and out the door he went
 

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Originally posted by Soma


Aequitas:

Everyone is a stranger at first. You're not going to learn any dark secrets within 2-3 dates that you haven't already suspected in the first 30 mins. [/B]
U would be suprised as to how much you can find out after JUST 2-3 dates with a girl;) .... and i'm not looking for her deepest darkest secrect, I'm just getting know know her better and getting to know what kind of person she is.
 

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Originally posted by aequitas
U would be suprised as to how much you can find out after JUST 2-3 dates with a girl;) .... and i'm not looking for her deepest darkest secrect, I'm just getting know know her better and getting to know what kind of person she is.
People get married and don't know who their spouse really is. You'll never know that in 2-3 dates.
 

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So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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Question is: what KIND of people get married and dont even know who their spouse is. And no Im not talking about cultures where this is tradition
 

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My greatest fear when I take a new girl to my place is that she'll take advantage of me, rape me, and fulfill her darkest, deepest, desires by acting out her raunchy sexual fantasies.
 

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Originally posted by xblitz44x
People get married and don't know who their spouse really is. You'll never know that in 2-3 dates.
Well then these kind of people have some serious issues and i feel for them. :rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by JT47319
My greatest fear when I take a new girl to my place is that she'll take advantage of me, rape me, and fulfill her darkest, deepest, desires by acting out her raunchy sexual fantasies.
lol... for most guys that would be a dream come true;)
 

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I think Francisco hit it on the head a few posts ago. It's all about qualifying. You can qualify someone right away.

Look guys, women aren't that different. After you have had enough experience with women, you can pretty accurately determine what they are like in no time at all with a fairly high degree of accuracy. Now each one has their little beautiful quirks and differences which make them so much fun to get to know better.

But, usually within a few emails, a phone call, 10 minutes meeting them. I have a pretty good idea of what type of girl they are. I'm not saying I don't get suprised at times, but for the most part if you trust your gut, you can get everything you need to know about them in no time at all. The more you meet women online the better you will get at this. Within a few interactions, you'll know almost exactly what to expect.

Just the way I see things.

--Romeo
 

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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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