online vague question...?

[glass half full]

So I found someone online i'm interested in. 40 yo,. quite pretty, slim, smart, and close to home (an hour away)
I've noticed younger posters seem vague compared to girls my age -60
Her response- "hi tell me about you"
Just like that. I don't know how to respond- What does she really want to know?
Probably sounds obvious to someone (I hope...)
I have not been involved in the dating game for several years, I may have forgotten some of what I learned here in previous years.
This situation kind of fell into my lap.

Thoughts?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Sounds like a disinterested response to be honest.

Don't qualify yourself to her, just let her know you'd be interested in getting to know her better.

iMO, those questions are the type of questions asked by women hoping you disqualify yourself without them having to do any work.

 

[SW15]

close to home (an hour away)

It sounds like your logistics are crap. Why bother for a woman that far away?

Sounds like a disinterested response to be honest.

Agree.

those questions are the type of questions asked by women hoping you disqualify yourself without them having to do any work.

Yes

I have not been involved in the dating game for several years, I may have forgotten some of what I learned here in previous years.

Sounds like it.

 

[Gamisch]

Oh sh1t. Online dating in a nutshell...

 

[glass half full]

As for finding someone closer, Understand that I live in the Midwest.. Decent sized towns are easily a half hour apart, and this town is a big one. Not like I can just go walk down the street to a bar and find a piece... Lol would be nice though.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

As for finding someone closer, Understand that I live in the Midwest.. Decent sized towns are easily a half hour apart, and this town is a big one. Not like I can just go walk down the street to a bar and find a piece... Lol would be nice though.

So essentially you are desperate. This is going to end well...

 

[glass half full]

So essentially you are desperate. This is going to end well...

So, now this place lets anyone be a Mod now, huh!
With your reply, sounds like you're not capable of being an expert Don Juan yourself. Good Luck, Friar Duck.

 

[glass half full]

assumption is indeed the mother of all f*ck ups.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Not sure why you are so infatuated with someone that you haven’t even had a full convo on. Just send a witty response to see if she bites and wants the game to begin. It takes 2 to tango…

“my name is gigachad and I love ice cream and long walks in the middle of the street. You?”

 

[glass half full]

Never claimed to be infatuated with this one. Just a question...

Oh, the over-reactions here. Last I knew, Spaz was the resident hotshot here.
Looks like he has been offering classes.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Never claimed to be infatuated with this one. Just a question...

Oh, the over-reactions here. Last I knew, Spaz was the resident hotshot here.
Looks like he has been offering classes.

If you're not infatuated, then why do you seem unsure how to respond? It feels like you're worried about dropping the ball, which might suggest infatuation.

You are not only overthinking this (don’t claim that you are not) but you are being overtly sensitive and passive aggressive about the situation.

 

[glass half full]

Jesus Christ!

Ok. I was wrong to come here.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Jesus Christ!

Ok. I was wrong to come here.

Did we say something THAT bad to prompt such a defensive, patronizing response? I’m not sure what kind of answer you were expecting. I don’t think I was being mean, I was just offering my honest perspective and how to game her. It seems like your reaction might be more about your sensitivity or insecurities than anything harsh in my words.

Let’s hope she doesn’t try to sh!t test you…

 

[BackInTheGame78]

So, now this place lets anyone be a Mod now, huh!
With your reply, sounds like you're not capable of being an expert Don Juan yourself. Good Luck, Friar Duck.

Great response....I'm not the one saying you need to figure out a way to make it work because you live in a small area. That is the mindset of a desperate man.

A mindset of lack can never lead to a place of abundance.

 

[SW15]

As for finding someone closer, Understand that I live in the Midwest.. Decent sized towns are easily a half hour apart, and this town is a big one. Not like I can just go walk down the street to a bar and find a piece... Lol would be nice though.

You need to move. You sound like you are some older guy in a town with a population of 50,000 - 200,000. 200,000 is about the minimum population that an adult needs to date effectively as he ages.

A lot of older people live in smaller towns that simply aren't going to work for meeting new people.

You're 60. You could be living in one of those massive 55+ communities in Florida or Arizona. There is a singles scene in those 55+ communities in Florida and Arizona, although the majority of the 55+ communities are aging couples.

If you don't want to live in a 55+ community, there's a good chance that you need to live in a bigger city to have more singles available near your age.

How rich are you? 60 year olds are going to need money to date 40 year olds.

Many 40-45 year old women who are unattached and seeking new penis are single moms with children under 18. How excited are you for dealing with children under 18 at ages 60-65?

Dating women with adult children isn't fun either.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

The reality is that you'll need to move. I got divorced from my first husband while living in a small midwest town (under 25 thousand people). My first husband and I had met in a large metro area heavy on nightlife. The small town was fine for us and for child rearing while we were married; the singles scene was horrible after divorce (and I'm a very attractive girl so every single guy who I found unattractive from 32 to 82 was interested in me.....) I relocated to a large metro with a thriving singles scene. I was 45 when the divorce occurred and am 56 now. I am remarried to a very attractive man who is 8 years younger than me (so I was able to compete in a large metro market very effectively).....

My first husband still lives in the small town. He has never gotten laid in 11 years, never had a girlfriend. He's 58. And he was a sexy nightclub owner with style, panache & moxy when we met 25+ years ago.

The women who are single in a small town environment are swarmed if they are attractive. Women in a large metro an hour from the small town are not interested in giving up the amenities of the city either unless you are a rich Chad (which is highly unlikely at 60.)

@Bible_Belt is in a midwestern rural area if memory serves. He has found attractive women in that situation. And @Glassguy is also in a smaller area and he slays. He's also younger than 50. Perhaps they will chime in. Not sure Spaz would give advice much different than you've already gotten, but he'd certainly have been extremely blunt.

Why would an attractive 40 year old consider a man 20 years older? That is a legit question worth a response.

You may need to seriously consider relocation. But let's see what others have to say.

 

[SW15]

You may need to seriously consider relocation. But let's see what others have to say.

It's good that you see things similarly to me on the topic of @glass half full and his relocation.

I got divorced from my first husband while living in a small midwest town (under 25 thousand people). The small town was fine for us and for child rearing while we were married; the singles scene was horrible after divorce (and I'm a very attractive girl so every single guy who I found unattractive from 32 to 82 was interested in me.....)

My first husband still lives in the small town. He has never gotten laid in 11 years, never had a girlfriend. He's 58. And he was a sexy nightclub owner with style, panache & moxy when we met 25+ years ago.

That small town in the US Midwest would only make sense for married couples with families. You did the right thing by moving away from there. Your ex-husband made the wrong decision by not moving away from there.

You could have had a boyfriend as a single mom in that small Midwestern town. Dating would have been easier for you there as compared to your ex-husband. However, you wanted to better singles scene and a better selection of future dating partners.

 

[Sega Genesis]

So I found someone online i'm interested in. 40 yo,. quite pretty, slim, smart, and close to home (an hour away)
I've noticed younger posters seem vague compared to girls my age -60
Her response- "hi tell me about you"
Just like that. I don't know how to respond- What does she really want to know?
Probably sounds obvious to someone (I hope...)
I have not been involved in the dating game for several years, I may have forgotten some of what I learned here in previous years.
This situation kind of fell into my lap.

Thoughts?

Answering the question.

Bolded - probably nothing specific at this point, it's simply a way to prompt a conversation, pretty typical of online.

I'm not gonna tell ya how to respond only to say if you can think of a funny retort to make her chuckle that's a good start!

Nothing heavy and let the convo flow naturally and organically.

I'm in my 30s and when I did online, I received messages from some very attractive men 50-60ish so don't rule out that she finds you attractive! As another poster suggested.

That's a defeatist attitude right there and It will only bring you down and make it harder to connect.

You've been out of the game for awhile so you're bound to make some misses but keep going!

With this chick, keep it light and if you're vibing well, suggest a meet asap.

Good luck!

 

[The Duke]

So I found someone online i'm interested in. 40 yo,. quite pretty, slim, smart, and close to home (an hour away)
I've noticed younger posters seem vague compared to girls my age -60
Her response- "hi tell me about you"
Just like that. I don't know how to respond- What does she really want to know?
Probably sounds obvious to someone (I hope...)
I have not been involved in the dating game for several years, I may have forgotten some of what I learned here in previous years.
This situation kind of fell into my lap.

Thoughts?

I'd say something like.....doing great, I just received the Bumble Bee of the month award(assuming you are on Bumble.) ;-)

I see you are into (insert her hobby), looks like you have been to some cool places. How did you get interested in that?

Stop thinking so much. Yes, its pretty common for women to say things like "hi tell me about you" for all the reasons previous posters mentioned. Usually its low interest, but it doesn't hurt to find out for sure.

 

[Gamisch]

Jesus Christ!

Ok. I was wrong to come here.

If you have such a thin skin among men, I don't even wanna imagine how you act when a woman gives you merciless bs to deal with.

Stop acting like your tampon is full of sand bruh.