"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Online profile: I've been inspired

RecoveringAFC

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Based on a recent thread I thought I'd post a new online profile for your consideration.
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I'm an explorer. Traveling to new places, eating new foods, or turning
left when I should turn right. There is a whole world of places to
visit and I want to see them all.

Exploring the depths of my soul, I have discovered interests in books,
music and the arts. I read everything from the latest Harry Potter
adventure to Chuck Palahnuik and all stops in between. My taste in
music is equally varied. Country, Jazz, Rock and Classical all have
a place.

I'm seeking a follow explorer. A woman of depth and character. Someone
interesting who will join me on my adventures.

Is that you?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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speakeasy

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Work in some humor somewhere, there's no humor at all in your profile. Maybe even a little C+F.
 

Jariel

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It's nicely written, but does come across as a bit boring and sweet. Sure, you list fascinating activities, but the profile doesn't really inspire excitement.

In my personal experience of writing profiles, the honest and straight-talking approach worked better than anything else I tried. I.e. no bragging, no fancy lines, just basic facts..."this is who I am, this is what I like, this is who I'm interested in meeting". It was politely written, but just had a kind of take it or leave it attitude about it.

Another thing that worked effectively was emphasising who I don't want to talk to, i.e. "Not interested in cybersex or watching attention wh0res on webcams, so please save your time."

You wouldn't believe how many women lapped that up and sent me mails like "You're so different to most guys here" or "It's refreshing to see a guy like you" and so on. It's a good way to distinguish yourself from the usual crowd.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I love Hyori Lee said:
Don't put in Harry Potter.


It categorizes you as "one of those."....
:cuss: Damn muggles...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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