"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Online profile: I've been inspired

RecoveringAFC

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Based on a recent thread I thought I'd post a new online profile for your consideration.
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I'm an explorer. Traveling to new places, eating new foods, or turning
left when I should turn right. There is a whole world of places to
visit and I want to see them all.

Exploring the depths of my soul, I have discovered interests in books,
music and the arts. I read everything from the latest Harry Potter
adventure to Chuck Palahnuik and all stops in between. My taste in
music is equally varied. Country, Jazz, Rock and Classical all have
a place.

I'm seeking a follow explorer. A woman of depth and character. Someone
interesting who will join me on my adventures.

Is that you?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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speakeasy

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Work in some humor somewhere, there's no humor at all in your profile. Maybe even a little C+F.
 

Jariel

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It's nicely written, but does come across as a bit boring and sweet. Sure, you list fascinating activities, but the profile doesn't really inspire excitement.

In my personal experience of writing profiles, the honest and straight-talking approach worked better than anything else I tried. I.e. no bragging, no fancy lines, just basic facts..."this is who I am, this is what I like, this is who I'm interested in meeting". It was politely written, but just had a kind of take it or leave it attitude about it.

Another thing that worked effectively was emphasising who I don't want to talk to, i.e. "Not interested in cybersex or watching attention wh0res on webcams, so please save your time."

You wouldn't believe how many women lapped that up and sent me mails like "You're so different to most guys here" or "It's refreshing to see a guy like you" and so on. It's a good way to distinguish yourself from the usual crowd.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I love Hyori Lee said:
Don't put in Harry Potter.


It categorizes you as "one of those."....
:cuss: Damn muggles...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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