"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Online profile: I've been inspired

RecoveringAFC

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Based on a recent thread I thought I'd post a new online profile for your consideration.
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I'm an explorer. Traveling to new places, eating new foods, or turning
left when I should turn right. There is a whole world of places to
visit and I want to see them all.

Exploring the depths of my soul, I have discovered interests in books,
music and the arts. I read everything from the latest Harry Potter
adventure to Chuck Palahnuik and all stops in between. My taste in
music is equally varied. Country, Jazz, Rock and Classical all have
a place.

I'm seeking a follow explorer. A woman of depth and character. Someone
interesting who will join me on my adventures.

Is that you?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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speakeasy

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Work in some humor somewhere, there's no humor at all in your profile. Maybe even a little C+F.
 

Jariel

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It's nicely written, but does come across as a bit boring and sweet. Sure, you list fascinating activities, but the profile doesn't really inspire excitement.

In my personal experience of writing profiles, the honest and straight-talking approach worked better than anything else I tried. I.e. no bragging, no fancy lines, just basic facts..."this is who I am, this is what I like, this is who I'm interested in meeting". It was politely written, but just had a kind of take it or leave it attitude about it.

Another thing that worked effectively was emphasising who I don't want to talk to, i.e. "Not interested in cybersex or watching attention wh0res on webcams, so please save your time."

You wouldn't believe how many women lapped that up and sent me mails like "You're so different to most guys here" or "It's refreshing to see a guy like you" and so on. It's a good way to distinguish yourself from the usual crowd.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I love Hyori Lee said:
Don't put in Harry Potter.


It categorizes you as "one of those."....
:cuss: Damn muggles...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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