I am currently trying out the online dating scene (I need to get laid). I have sent out some nods to come cuties. However, I didn't post a pic of myself for identity reasons. Could this be a problem? To get around posting a pic, how else could I make myself more marketable?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Online Personals Without A Pic?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
The DomMega
Don Juan
I concur, regardless of how wonderful and uplifting your text might be, ultimately women want a picture to go on. Good luck receiving any replies with your "No picture for this user" icon in your profile. You'll get thrown to the bottom of the pile like a ****ty resume.
UpNCominDJ
Don Juan
post a pic
A picture says a thousand words. Women want to make sure the words you are saying in your picture do not rhyme with rapist or crazy. Take a regular picture of yourself and post it. if you have bad teeth, then don't smile. If you're ****eyed, then don't look into the camera. your pictures don't have to be of model quality. you just have to look sane in them.
A picture says a thousand words. Women want to make sure the words you are saying in your picture do not rhyme with rapist or crazy. Take a regular picture of yourself and post it. if you have bad teeth, then don't smile. If you're ****eyed, then don't look into the camera. your pictures don't have to be of model quality. you just have to look sane in them.
ChenCristos
Don Juan
ha i know what you saying about being on the DL- why dont you just send individual girls pics who have read your profile and still interested..
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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that was a dumb idea
Basically to online personals if you don't put up a picuture that means A. You're ugly B. You're fat or C. All of the above. I mean damn dude if you're decent looking what the hell were you thinking. Let me put in simpler terms.
People use those pictures for qualifying. I.E. If someone only put pictures of their face but not their body most would assume they're fat. And those that post no picture, most would assume are ugly. So if you post no picture people will assume your ugly "and" fat. Simple as that.
Basically to online personals if you don't put up a picuture that means A. You're ugly B. You're fat or C. All of the above. I mean damn dude if you're decent looking what the hell were you thinking. Let me put in simpler terms.
People use those pictures for qualifying. I.E. If someone only put pictures of their face but not their body most would assume they're fat. And those that post no picture, most would assume are ugly. So if you post no picture people will assume your ugly "and" fat. Simple as that.
Re: Re: post a pic
Just ask yourself this. Who would you rather emulate? A clearly embarassed guy without a picture for his profile or someone more confident? If you want confidence, don't give excuses. Feel the pain and learn from it. That will make you a lot more marketable.
Dude. I understand that it might be extremely difficult but you've got to try to be at peace with the choices you make. Trying to hide yourself from what you have decided to do only makes you come out worse if you were to be discovered.
Just ask yourself this. Who would you rather emulate? A clearly embarassed guy without a picture for his profile or someone more confident? If you want confidence, don't give excuses. Feel the pain and learn from it. That will make you a lot more marketable.
There is really nothing wrong with meeting girls on the internet. This isn't ten years ago, this is now. I met my girlfriend on hotornot and we've been dating for over a year now(and she's good looking too).
For guys, it is mandatory that a picture be posted. Make it a good one, too.
Women, although they like to say they care about personality etc., are the same as guys: they go for looks first.
If your picture isn't up, they will not read anything, and just assume that you're either ugly, lacking confidence, or not using the dating service anymore.
The moral of the story is: if you are using internet dating, you have to post a picture.
For guys, it is mandatory that a picture be posted. Make it a good one, too.
Women, although they like to say they care about personality etc., are the same as guys: they go for looks first.
If your picture isn't up, they will not read anything, and just assume that you're either ugly, lacking confidence, or not using the dating service anymore.
The moral of the story is: if you are using internet dating, you have to post a picture.
Re: Re: post a pic
It's a problem already if your worried about what other people think. Remember, A DJ doesn't worry about what other people think of them. Besides, your not the first/only person to post a personal on the net.Post your picture.
darth yoda
Don Juan
Desperation do I sense...channel your feelings into self-improvement, not "needing to get laid".
What does your profile look like? Perhaps assistance you need in describing yourself.
No pic she sees, alone you will be!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
Re: that was a dumb idea
If you don't put a picture up they'll think you're ugly, why put one up and confirm it
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Re: Re: post a pic
Then stay off the net and leave the women for the rest of us.
ApocalypseCow2
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No, it's not a problem.
Just offer to email the girls your picture when you send them a message.
Just offer to email the girls your picture when you send them a message.
the12thplanet
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would YOU contact a girl on a dating site who hadnt put her picture up? i know i wouldnt.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
And when the girl asks you why you don't put up your picture in the first place, what are you going to tell her? That you're afraid someone you know might stumble across your profile? That you want to have the choice of giving ugly girls your downright nasty picture to see their reaction? Unless you're willing to come clean with the girl if she would to ever ask you about this, I suggest that you just put up a picture.
ApocalypseCow2
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Then you're missing out on a lot of good stuff. I would regularly email girls without pics and ask them to send me something via email. Every single one of them did. And the babe-to-dog ratio was no different than those who posted pics.
undesputable
Master Don Juan
i tried this **** for a while and i couldnt post a pic until like 2 weeks later. The first 2 weeks i got nothing, nobody even viewed my profile, nobody sent messages, i was a nobody without a pic. Then i finally got around in posting a pic and bam, replies, views everything went up. So yea i think the pic is about the most important thing.
LegalSeduction
Don Juan
I want to try online personals, but I don't want anyone I know to find out about it.
Some people in the office found out that a woman we work with is on jdate.com, and everyone laughs at her and mocks her behind her back because of it.
I don't mind sending a picture via email upon her request, but i dont wanna have a pic up there for everyone browsing to see..
so, anyone think of any strategies?
Some people in the office found out that a woman we work with is on jdate.com, and everyone laughs at her and mocks her behind her back because of it.
I don't mind sending a picture via email upon her request, but i dont wanna have a pic up there for everyone browsing to see..
so, anyone think of any strategies?
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