"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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tdotseoul

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Ok so I've always wanted to **** a girl that I met online. So I have started messaging this girl through this site.

I messaged her and she responded within 15 minutes and her response was really good. She asked me interesting questions and answered mine really well.
So, it's 11 pm right now. When's the best time to respond back?

Here's my logic.

Immediately: pro - because we are able to maintain the connection we have but con - she might think I'm desperate.

Reply tomorrow: pro - she'll think that I'm giving her space and that I wasn't waiting for her reply desperately but con - we might lose the the connection we had through our first introduction.

What do you think?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Iceberg

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Loosen up, buddy. It's some broad you haven't even met, and you're already worried about how long to reply to her messages.

Worry about this stuff when you get her number.
 

tdotseoul

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I couldn't careless about what will happene with this girl.
I was asking about people's philosophy on replying back.
When would be a good time, etc.

The story is the content we could use to discuss.

And if you're not going to answer the question directly why do you even bother participating in a thread?
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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tdotseoul said:
Ok so I've always wanted to **** a girl that I met online. So I have started messaging this girl through this site.

I messaged her and she responded within 15 minutes and her response was really good. She asked me interesting questions and answered mine really well.
So, it's 11 pm right now. When's the best time to respond back?

Here's my logic.

Immediately: pro - because we are able to maintain the connection we have but con - she might think I'm desperate.

Reply tomorrow: pro - she'll think that I'm giving her space and that I wasn't waiting for her reply desperately but con - we might lose the the connection we had through our first introduction.

What do you think?
What's "this site"? Are we talking online dating here or what? That affects how you approach the situation.

If we are talking about online dating sites like POF, you message fast and hard. If you wait 24 hours, she would have fielded 30 messages by then and won't even remember you.
 

tdotseoul

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
What's "this site"? Are we talking online dating here or what? That affects how you approach the situation.

If we are talking about online dating sites like POF, you message fast and hard. If you wait 24 hours, she would have fielded 30 messages by then and won't even remember you.
Tis true.
It's not POF haha it's a site where people don't get messages much.
It's CouchSurfing
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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tdotseoul said:
Ok so I've always wanted to **** a girl that I met online. So I have started messaging this girl through this site.

I messaged her and she responded within 15 minutes and her response was really good. She asked me interesting questions and answered mine really well.
So, it's 11 pm right now. When's the best time to respond back?

Here's my logic.

Immediately: pro - because we are able to maintain the connection we have but con - she might think I'm desperate.

Reply tomorrow: pro - she'll think that I'm giving her space and that I wasn't waiting for her reply desperately but con - we might lose the the connection we had through our first introduction.

What do you think?[/QUOTF

I guess you will never know for sure when is the right time.

But you could try to write fast.

If she slow down the answers.. slow down forgive and next her.

If she really care she will respond..
 
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