"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Online hottie TOO crazy about me

Bonhomme

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I want to sound you guys out on a weird situation. I've been emailing this very cute (based on the pics) gal I met online who is so openly crazy for me it makes me wonder what the catch is, or whether she just has absolutely no dating sophistication. I've usually taken several days to get back with her, on account of my being pretty busy, and not having a lot of time for emails. She does praise me for "not nagging or goofing unnecessarily." Must be used to a lot of hardcore AFCs.

I thought she was Russian at first, because she writes in somewhat broken English, but she's provided more personal details, and would have to be a very determined and creative individual to maintain the ruse for so long, knowing I have no intention of dating someone who does not live nearby. So I doubt she's writing from overseas at this point. Still, being supposedly a professional writer and writing in semi-broken English (e.g., "do you like career woman?") doesn't add up.

We haven't even met yet, or even talked on the phone, though I gave her my # and asked for hers, which she did not provide.

I'm obviously still highly skeptical, but am wondering if any of you have had a similar experience. Supposedly she's out of town on an assignment now. For now, I'm just enjoying the emails, and keeping expecttions way down.

Any thoughts as to what to expect?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bonhomme

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That's exactly what I'm thinking, Egoist.

I'm wondering what kind of terminal illness or STD she has ... or something like that. Huntington's? Maybe making too much of having herpes? A Russian gal who knows somebody here, and is on a visit?
 

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Sounds like to me she is baiting you to go to some pay site. Normally they don't go through this much work but with everyone onto their tricks, there probably having to work harder for their scams now.

Don't waste any more time till you get a number. I forget who mentioned it, but you have to get away from online ASAP otherwise you don't get to work no kino, etc... you'll be in LJBF zone.

Talking too much too early is bad.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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It's situations like this that gives online dating a bad name. Guys should stop becoming romantic "pen pals" with women and actually get out and meet them. It shouldn't takes weeks at a time if she's truly interested in you. As it is all you are offering her is a ego boost.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bonhomme

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That makes sense. I could see not making arrangements the last time I suggested we get together on account of her going out of town (supposedly), but if we don't meet soon after she returns, NEXT.

I'll keep you posted on where this goes. Thanks for the input.
 
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