"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've been practicing with online game lately, but I have encountered a problem. Could someone teach me how to get the situation from online to real life, and some things that I can use.


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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ask them if they want to chat or text within 2 or 3 emails. If they flake then you haven't wasted your time telling them all your childhood stories and all that. Often they will be waiting for you to make the first move. After you establish rapport over text or chat, ask them out, during the first conversation. Then you can get an idea of what their interest level is. Some people who are online just want attention, and can go on exchanging emails forever. Waste of time.

What do you mean by, "things you can use"? Like openers? Strategies?
 
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omkara said:
Ask them if they want to chat or text within 2 or 3 emails. If they flake then you haven't wasted your time telling them all your childhood stories and all that. Often they will be waiting for you to make the first move. After you establish rapport over text or chat, ask them out, during the first conversation. Then you can get an idea of what their interest level is. Some people who are online just want attention, and can go on exchanging emails forever. Waste of time.

What do you mean by, "things you can use"? Like openers? Strategies?
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Yeah you can post some things that we can use openers and Strategies
 
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The best advice I can give is don't spend too much time chatting online. I always try to number close within 2-3 message exchanges.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Asian Lover said:
I enjoy chatting with you.

Let's meet for coffee.
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Awesome.

Coffeeshops and tattoo parlors are my favorite first time meet spots. They're well lit and bustling with people which keep you and her both feeling secure.

Never buy dinner on a first encounter. Coffee and a scone will set you back $10 at most and you can easily spread some dialogue together.
 
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Eh, from my experience, you can always tell the hot chicks online from the ugly ones... The hot ones are hesitant to meet up so quickly. Ive dated a lot of chicks this year as I was divorced in February, and 5 of those chicks that Ive dated thus far were from the internet. Going from email to "instant messenger" or whatever is the right idea... you can usually pull that off in just a few emails, but you will find that you must spend a bit more time on the "instant messenger" side before meeting up. I always prefer to go from email to facebook as fb has an instant messenger built in. This is good bc my fb page builds rapport... the chicks see that other hot chicks are writing on my wall, etc. That automatically sets a more comfortable mood. Then I go from fb to texting in just a few convos...

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The Asian Lover said:
I enjoy chatting with you.

Let's meet for coffee.
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You'll notice that this type of stuff, moving it on will seperate the chicks that want their online egos stroked from those that actually want to meet up.
 
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KarmaSutra said:
Awesome.

Coffeeshops and tattoo parlors are my favorite first time meet spots. They're well lit and bustling with people which keep you and her both feeling secure.

Never buy dinner on a first encounter. Coffee and a scone will set you back $10 at most and you can easily spread some dialogue together.
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Fo sure!

I shake my head when I hear of guys that spend over $100 on a first date. I won't take a girl out to the dinner unless she gives me a passionate kiss.
 
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You'll notice that this type of stuff, moving it on will seperate the chicks that want their online egos stroked from those that actually want to meet up.
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Exactly!

There are a lot of attention *****s on online dating sites. Moving it to a coffee date right away screens them out and saves you time.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I should add that I've played around with this stuff before. Doesn't matter how long you stoke the online attention ho's ego, she won't go out. Could be one back and forth messaging, or a dozen. Soon as you move to bring it into the real world, she'll either stop responding or say no, flake, etc.

Also any chick that posts contact info on the free sites is either desperatly fat, a hooker, or spam.

In addition to coffee places (haven't done tattoo parlors, its not my scene) I'll also invite to a local bar for a beer.

What i've noticed is the best formula is this:

* Opening message
* Her response
* You respond
* She fires back
* You send coffee request
* Set up date/time

If they are responding quick, I usually get IM instead of coffee request and make sure to (or at least attempt) set up a date. Chances are you won't IM them again, and if so, you're steeply rolling down the hill.
 
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