"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Online dating sites

Pick one or several options: which site you like and which you don't?

  • Yahoo seems ok

    Votes: 3 27.3%
  • Match seems ok

    Votes: 2 18.2%
  • Americansingles seems ok

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Myspace seem ok

    Votes: 4 36.4%
  • PlentyofFish ok

    Votes: 2 18.2%
  • Yahoo seems bad

    Votes: 4 36.4%
  • Match seems bad

    Votes: 3 27.3%
  • Americansingles seems bad

    Votes: 3 27.3%
  • Myspace seem bad

    Votes: 3 27.3%
  • PlentyofFish seem bad

    Votes: 3 27.3%

  • Total voters
    11

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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al77

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Interesting trend so far: seem more people have _negative_ experience with online dating sites: which is very understandable: the sites are interested in people who use them and pay them for the use. And who will use them?
Right, the people who didn't find any matches...

Seems onling dating sites are interested in the situation when customers do not find any decent matches.
 

insomniac

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My comments:

Match - Good selection of women, but the user features are horrible. They let other people know you've looked at them, you can't easily contact people with your profile hidden, and they make it difficult to cancel your account. And no IM.

Yahoo - Not as great a selection as match, but can easily contact people while hidden, plus IM

American Singles - Horrible selection. Never bothered trying that out.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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For you DJs that are cheap, er... unsure of the pay sites, WebDate.com is a decent alternative.
 

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Thus small poll shows dissatisfaction with onling dating in general. Sad.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Actually, my preferred method for meeting girls is online. I do really well with it. It has hurt my cold approaches though since I can still get laid without doing any.

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