"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Oneitis self talk.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
By treating them all the same.
Serenity
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wifehunter
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
you just keep thinking it and saying it until you believe it then don't let anything burst your bubble
I don't get oneitis anymore. The closest thing I get is higher than normal attraction for a woman.
Its hard for me to get onetitis when I don't respect or trust women enough to see them in such an elevated light that I would pedestalize them. I see really hot women as higher value because of the arm candy and the increased sexual desire. On the emotional level.. they don't do anything more for me than average women. So no oneitis.
Get more experience. Once you see women for what they really are.. you will realize they are just flawed humans that are not worthy of being worshiped or idolized in anyway. When a man has experienced years of rejection and some cute girl comes along and treats him better than normal.. that is all it takes for him to get oneitis. Its kind of pathetic. And because the man is so starved for love he is blind to the fact that all women have agendas and her behavior is more about HER and what she wants than about him.
When you understand this game on a deep level you don't get oneitis. You also learn not to cling to things in general as life is unpredictable and change is constant.