Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Oneitis self talk.
- Thread starter jebach123
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
By treating them all the same.
Serenity
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wifehunter
Master Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
you just keep thinking it and saying it until you believe it then don't let anything burst your bubble
I don't get oneitis anymore. The closest thing I get is higher than normal attraction for a woman.
Its hard for me to get onetitis when I don't respect or trust women enough to see them in such an elevated light that I would pedestalize them. I see really hot women as higher value because of the arm candy and the increased sexual desire. On the emotional level.. they don't do anything more for me than average women. So no oneitis.
Get more experience. Once you see women for what they really are.. you will realize they are just flawed humans that are not worthy of being worshiped or idolized in anyway. When a man has experienced years of rejection and some cute girl comes along and treats him better than normal.. that is all it takes for him to get oneitis. Its kind of pathetic. And because the man is so starved for love he is blind to the fact that all women have agendas and her behavior is more about HER and what she wants than about him.
When you understand this game on a deep level you don't get oneitis. You also learn not to cling to things in general as life is unpredictable and change is constant.