"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Oneitis self talk.
- Thread starter jebach123
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
By treating them all the same.
Serenity
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wifehunter
Master Don Juan
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
you just keep thinking it and saying it until you believe it then don't let anything burst your bubble
I don't get oneitis anymore. The closest thing I get is higher than normal attraction for a woman.
Its hard for me to get onetitis when I don't respect or trust women enough to see them in such an elevated light that I would pedestalize them. I see really hot women as higher value because of the arm candy and the increased sexual desire. On the emotional level.. they don't do anything more for me than average women. So no oneitis.
Get more experience. Once you see women for what they really are.. you will realize they are just flawed humans that are not worthy of being worshiped or idolized in anyway. When a man has experienced years of rejection and some cute girl comes along and treats him better than normal.. that is all it takes for him to get oneitis. Its kind of pathetic. And because the man is so starved for love he is blind to the fact that all women have agendas and her behavior is more about HER and what she wants than about him.
When you understand this game on a deep level you don't get oneitis. You also learn not to cling to things in general as life is unpredictable and change is constant.