ive had a nasty case of oneitis fro a while now. its for this chick i met at a friends house one day. i finally got an excuse to talk to her on mypace (she doesnt go to my school), and i kinda backed myself into a corner by asking some closed-ended questions. I wanna work up to asking her for her email or phone number, so can i back myself out?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
sure you can... heres what you should do.
Just dont talk to her for a while (week, 2 weeks), then comment her and say something reminded you of her that can relate back to that time. Something funny would definetly be best. Then she will respond with something more than a simple yes or not and then your in.
Just dont talk to her for a while (week, 2 weeks), then comment her and say something reminded you of her that can relate back to that time. Something funny would definetly be best. Then she will respond with something more than a simple yes or not and then your in.