"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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oneitis- help me feel ok

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OK guys make me fell all right. I feel like **** right now. Lie if you have to but console me...:)
The thing is I just broke up with this girl, and I don't regret it but I feel like **** cause I hurt her. (she has oneitis with me)
She was the gr8est girl I knew (personality wise) but she didn't look all that good to me and I just wasn't in love with her. I can't help it. There wasn't any chemistry.
Do you think I will make it easier for her if I still stay friends with her or should I cut off all contact?
Also, she has a birthday in a month. Should I buy her something? I would really like to but there is always a posibility that she will think I want to get together with her again, which I don't.:(
We were together for 2 months.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You can't really love someone in only 2 months...

She'll be fine...just leave her alone. Before you know it some other guy will come along who is really into her and as soon as he kisses her she'll forget all about you.
 
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I sure hope so;)
Well, not LOVE, but be in love...there's a difference;)
So I should leave her alone? No present for birthday?
 
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You did the right thing. It was only two months. Its not like you built a life together. Better to end it cleanly then messing her around.

Should you styy friends with her? If she is the most awesome woman you have ever met I'd stay in contact...infequent contact.

As for a present, thats up to you.

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napoleon said:
OK guys make me fell all right. I feel like **** right now. Lie if you have to but console me...:)
The thing is I just broke up with this girl, and I don't regret it but I feel like **** cause I hurt her. (she has oneitis with me)
She was the gr8est girl I knew (personality wise) but she didn't look all that good to me and I just wasn't in love with her. I can't help it. There wasn't any chemistry.
Do you think I will make it easier for her if I still stay friends with her or should I cut off all contact?
Also, she has a birthday in a month. Should I buy her something? I would really like to but there is always a posibility that she will think I want to get together with her again, which I don't.:(
We were together for 2 months.
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I would not be concerned. She will get over you once she starts dating other guys.

I have let several relationships go where the girl was very into me. I just felt they were not a good match for me. In all situations, the girl eventually found someone else. I know several that ended up getting married.

I dont see it as a blow to my ego. To the contrary, I am happy for these women that they found the right guy in the end.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Do women buy men gifts after they "break-up" with them?? Ohhhh Helllllllllll NO!!!!

Quit getting emotional over hors!!!!
 
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No presents, and don't apologize.
And just as WF said, before you know it some other guy will be with her and she'll forget you ever existed.
But she will remember you as a chump if you give in and apologize and buy her a gift....and maybe give her false hope.
It was your fault to giving in to your Ego by going with this girl when you knew in your gut you had NO attraction to her.
You reap what you sow,
That is the down side to the "Player" DJ.
 
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