It's me again. The one everyone thinks is a troll. Well I'm not a troll and anyone who cares to read this I am ****ing cursed. I have oneitis from hell and it's from over 5 years ago!!! I've spun plates, got plenty of girls, narrowed them down to a cute lil latina upstairs right now probably cooking me lunch, but I CAN'T stop thinking about my EX. I've tried booze, pills, mushrooms, EVERYTHING. I even almost called her the other day. Is it acceptable for an old boyfriend to call a married old girlfriend?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ONEITIS from HELL
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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YESThugo said:
Call her and profess your undying love for her. Its the only way you will know if she will feel the same way or not. Otherwise your going to spend the next 50 years wondering about "the one".
ps. if you were a mature man, you wouldn't be trying to solve your problems with booze, pills or mushrooms.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Desdinova said:
What the hell am i supposed to say? I'm just going to get shot down!! If she still loved me she would try to contact me somehow... I left her my # the first time I called. She'll just shoot me down and I'll be more depressed. The only solution to this nightmare is for me to find a girl that makes me forget about her, but no girl has! I could be a call away from a restraining order! And her hubby might pick up the phone and cuss me out. WTF
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Desdinova said:
Well the first time I left a message she called back and we just chit chatted and when I found out she was married I cut the convo short. I just left a voice mail for her and she hasn't called back. Will she? I don't know. I doubt it. And that's probably a sign I shouldn't call again. I don't want to get put into that creep category who won't leave her alone. This has to end. I'm obsessed. I've had thoughts of killing her husband (I never woudl ofcourse). I don't know what to do.
Did my call a year ago accomplish anything? I guess it let her know I was still thinking about her after all these years. Beyond that, I don't know. I didn't ask to meet her or anything, it was just so nice to hear her voice. Maybe it let her know that if things went to the ****ter in her marrrriage she would have someone to call. What I wouldn't do for just one day with that girl. It's like goddamn man you've had her for 5 years let me get some of her lovin.
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Des ... You're cracking me up. You'd tell a guy thinking about jumping off a building to go ahead and do it!
Thugo ... This is pitiful, it really is. She's married, she won't call, she doesn't want you, she's moved on. When will you move on?
Thugo ... This is pitiful, it really is. She's married, she won't call, she doesn't want you, she's moved on. When will you move on?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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It wasn't a fvcking joke.
You were WANTING to call her. You've been wanting to call her since your last thread. I just gave you a kick in that direction so you'd quit going around in circles.
I told you to forget about her in your last thread, and that obviously didn't work. So I gave you the only option you'd accept - TO CALL HER. And what did it accomplish? Nothing. She's still married, and you're not fvcking her.
Vulpine
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I suggest a poultice of crushed garlic and ground ginseng.
Take two cloves of garlic, a tablespoon of ground ginseng, and a 1/2 teaspoon of warm water. Mash them all together into a paste. If the paste is a little too runny, add a sprinkle of corn starch to stiffen it up. Take the paste and spread it onto a piece of gauze or cheese cloth.
For three nights, sleep with this poultice on your forhead. After the third night, wake up and scrape the paste off of the cheesecloth then eat it.
You will never think about this woman afterwards.
Take two cloves of garlic, a tablespoon of ground ginseng, and a 1/2 teaspoon of warm water. Mash them all together into a paste. If the paste is a little too runny, add a sprinkle of corn starch to stiffen it up. Take the paste and spread it onto a piece of gauze or cheese cloth.
For three nights, sleep with this poultice on your forhead. After the third night, wake up and scrape the paste off of the cheesecloth then eat it.
You will never think about this woman afterwards.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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