You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I understand the point, but it doesn't seem to make for a very apt analogy. For instance, assuming you're a heterosexual, in a gay club there is virtually zero chance that you will feel any attraction for any of the guys hitting on you. That would suggest that no woman in a club will ever feel any attraction to any guy who approaches her - seems like negative thinking to me.SgtSplacker said:
Just move on.. talk to other grls. Youll see by my previous posts I had bad oneitis and was a massive chump.SirFratserlot said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This guys an idiot, dont listen to him. Hes part of the reason SoSuave is getting worse.switch said:
I have an opportunity to this wednesdayZebco96 said:
MonthBeginningDJ said:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wait wait wait you slept with her... but didnt have sex?! Oh man thats insane. Should;ve pushed for it...SirFratserlot said:
Shes pretty much a virgin, and something bad happened but I dont want to say it on this forum. I prefer to pmJohnChops said: