When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I understand the point, but it doesn't seem to make for a very apt analogy. For instance, assuming you're a heterosexual, in a gay club there is virtually zero chance that you will feel any attraction for any of the guys hitting on you. That would suggest that no woman in a club will ever feel any attraction to any guy who approaches her - seems like negative thinking to me.SgtSplacker said:
Just move on.. talk to other grls. Youll see by my previous posts I had bad oneitis and was a massive chump.SirFratserlot said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This guys an idiot, dont listen to him. Hes part of the reason SoSuave is getting worse.switch said:
I have an opportunity to this wednesdayZebco96 said:
MonthBeginningDJ said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
wait wait wait you slept with her... but didnt have sex?! Oh man thats insane. Should;ve pushed for it...SirFratserlot said:
Shes pretty much a virgin, and something bad happened but I dont want to say it on this forum. I prefer to pmJohnChops said: