You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I understand the point, but it doesn't seem to make for a very apt analogy. For instance, assuming you're a heterosexual, in a gay club there is virtually zero chance that you will feel any attraction for any of the guys hitting on you. That would suggest that no woman in a club will ever feel any attraction to any guy who approaches her - seems like negative thinking to me.SgtSplacker said:
Just move on.. talk to other grls. Youll see by my previous posts I had bad oneitis and was a massive chump.SirFratserlot said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This guys an idiot, dont listen to him. Hes part of the reason SoSuave is getting worse.switch said:
I have an opportunity to this wednesdayZebco96 said:
MonthBeginningDJ said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
wait wait wait you slept with her... but didnt have sex?! Oh man thats insane. Should;ve pushed for it...SirFratserlot said:
Shes pretty much a virgin, and something bad happened but I dont want to say it on this forum. I prefer to pmJohnChops said: