"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Oneitis = DJ problems ..pls help

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chicksrock

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Hello Dj's,..
I was walking about being a DJ (like I usually do LOL) ..
anyways was using my DJ tricks on this chick..
later I find she FELL for my DJ tricks!

Now I feel oneitis for this chick...and its preventing me to use my DJ tricks...
i never knew why people had problems with oneitis.. i thought it was not possible if you are a true DJ..
and now I'm hit with the bug

I guess the obvious thing to do would be not to worry and just be your true DJ self .....
but the thing is I feel like i don't want to blow it..
i guess i need to work on my selfconfidence more...and stop being so needy and oneitis like..

anyone experience similar things and how they broke out of it ?
:)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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JSH

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find out why you have oneitis, deal with it: the most common problems are

a) she is your lifeline, you are needy as you do not have otehr chicks going on in the background: find other chicks, even if you are not interested and have them on the go
b) you are ****ing horny and therefore need to get rid of it: jack off more
c) both of the above

d)if not, you could just be in lust for her because she actually fell for you or she is the first gilr that has liked you: cure more chicka


in fact go out and DJ all the other girls, as you are a DJ you should be able to pick them up, you are distraceted, problem solved.
 
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DJ'ing is very much a mental game.

You have to be mentaly strong - and that's where you need to focus.

Keep busy - re-read post's on stratergy and DJ'ing - and ensure you do not lose your edge.

If you want to keep her - you must overcome this.
 
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Thanks guyz!
i;ll do exactly that ..

but I feel guilty DJing other girls when I want this HB?!?
I SOUND LIKE A TOTAL AFC i know ! :(

ok I'll do my best to DJ other girls then ... as newman said..if i want to keep her i must overcome this...

*sigh*
I'M IN LOVE
*sigh*

hehehe ;)
 
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that happens once in a while to all DJs, you got nothing to be ashame of it. And i know it'll be inevitable for you to think/ do some AFC moves while you're having an oneitis, my best pieace of advice to you is to think twice before you act, cause you might look back at it later and regret it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Though it won't hurt to appear very interested at times. Keeps her from realizing she is being DJed, also when you choose to break off contact just to raise her IL. The greater the low, the greater the high.

-Grey Fox
 
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