"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Oneitis = DJ problems ..pls help

chicksrock

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Hello Dj's,..
I was walking about being a DJ (like I usually do LOL) ..
anyways was using my DJ tricks on this chick..
later I find she FELL for my DJ tricks!

Now I feel oneitis for this chick...and its preventing me to use my DJ tricks...
i never knew why people had problems with oneitis.. i thought it was not possible if you are a true DJ..
and now I'm hit with the bug

I guess the obvious thing to do would be not to worry and just be your true DJ self .....
but the thing is I feel like i don't want to blow it..
i guess i need to work on my selfconfidence more...and stop being so needy and oneitis like..

anyone experience similar things and how they broke out of it ?
:)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JSH

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find out why you have oneitis, deal with it: the most common problems are

a) she is your lifeline, you are needy as you do not have otehr chicks going on in the background: find other chicks, even if you are not interested and have them on the go
b) you are ****ing horny and therefore need to get rid of it: jack off more
c) both of the above

d)if not, you could just be in lust for her because she actually fell for you or she is the first gilr that has liked you: cure more chicka


in fact go out and DJ all the other girls, as you are a DJ you should be able to pick them up, you are distraceted, problem solved.
 

NewMan

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DJ'ing is very much a mental game.

You have to be mentaly strong - and that's where you need to focus.

Keep busy - re-read post's on stratergy and DJ'ing - and ensure you do not lose your edge.

If you want to keep her - you must overcome this.
 

chicksrock

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Thanks guyz!
i;ll do exactly that ..

but I feel guilty DJing other girls when I want this HB?!?
I SOUND LIKE A TOTAL AFC i know ! :(

ok I'll do my best to DJ other girls then ... as newman said..if i want to keep her i must overcome this...

*sigh*
I'M IN LOVE
*sigh*

hehehe ;)
 

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that happens once in a while to all DJs, you got nothing to be ashame of it. And i know it'll be inevitable for you to think/ do some AFC moves while you're having an oneitis, my best pieace of advice to you is to think twice before you act, cause you might look back at it later and regret it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Though it won't hurt to appear very interested at times. Keeps her from realizing she is being DJed, also when you choose to break off contact just to raise her IL. The greater the low, the greater the high.

-Grey Fox
 
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