"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Oneitis = DJ problems ..pls help

chicksrock

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Hello Dj's,..
I was walking about being a DJ (like I usually do LOL) ..
anyways was using my DJ tricks on this chick..
later I find she FELL for my DJ tricks!

Now I feel oneitis for this chick...and its preventing me to use my DJ tricks...
i never knew why people had problems with oneitis.. i thought it was not possible if you are a true DJ..
and now I'm hit with the bug

I guess the obvious thing to do would be not to worry and just be your true DJ self .....
but the thing is I feel like i don't want to blow it..
i guess i need to work on my selfconfidence more...and stop being so needy and oneitis like..

anyone experience similar things and how they broke out of it ?
:)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JSH

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find out why you have oneitis, deal with it: the most common problems are

a) she is your lifeline, you are needy as you do not have otehr chicks going on in the background: find other chicks, even if you are not interested and have them on the go
b) you are ****ing horny and therefore need to get rid of it: jack off more
c) both of the above

d)if not, you could just be in lust for her because she actually fell for you or she is the first gilr that has liked you: cure more chicka


in fact go out and DJ all the other girls, as you are a DJ you should be able to pick them up, you are distraceted, problem solved.
 

NewMan

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DJ'ing is very much a mental game.

You have to be mentaly strong - and that's where you need to focus.

Keep busy - re-read post's on stratergy and DJ'ing - and ensure you do not lose your edge.

If you want to keep her - you must overcome this.
 

chicksrock

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Thanks guyz!
i;ll do exactly that ..

but I feel guilty DJing other girls when I want this HB?!?
I SOUND LIKE A TOTAL AFC i know ! :(

ok I'll do my best to DJ other girls then ... as newman said..if i want to keep her i must overcome this...

*sigh*
I'M IN LOVE
*sigh*

hehehe ;)
 

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that happens once in a while to all DJs, you got nothing to be ashame of it. And i know it'll be inevitable for you to think/ do some AFC moves while you're having an oneitis, my best pieace of advice to you is to think twice before you act, cause you might look back at it later and regret it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Grey Fox

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Though it won't hurt to appear very interested at times. Keeps her from realizing she is being DJed, also when you choose to break off contact just to raise her IL. The greater the low, the greater the high.

-Grey Fox
 
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