"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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hey guys my oneitis just broke up with her bf.

Right now, we are friends. I've read the friendzone posts, but if you guys have anything to add, or personal experiences to share, that'd be great. So far here is my plan:

- up the kino
- up the flirting
- 2 steps forward, 1 step back
- keep doing good EC, smile more

I've been doing pretty much all that but not so much cuz she had a bf, but now it is time to rally my forces.

Anything to add? I'm thinking I can pull this off.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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No. I've never really asked her out. She never has said, "LJBF." She's never said, "I don't like you that way." and she's never said stuff like "I see you as a brother."

Anyways, I just read Fingz's post on Escaping the Friend Zone and I almost violated the GOLDEN RULE!

Never communicate to her directly your feelings.

This is a rare time where my lack of balls came in handy. My fear of rejection resulted in me bottling up my feeelings FOREVER! Anyways, she doesn't know I like her.

I'm jsut going to screw with her mind like, SLOOWWLLY up the kino cuz I haven't been doing that ... close to none really. One day I'll act focused on her and hang out and walk with her and stuff. Then the next day I'll just be a loof in regards to her. Not ignoring her, but I'm going to be sociable mostly with other people.

Fingz said something good like, "god...you gotta stop wearing that perfume before it makes me do something to ruin our friendship!"

and if she keeps wearing it, then i win.
 
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hey if noone has any more, tips say I'm gonna be ok or something so at least I know I'm doing the right thing.

I think it'll turn out well and she is rapidly becoming more comfortable with me right now. :)
 
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well... dont put all you're energy into attracting this one chick.. also flirt with other chicks... it worked for me
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Keep focused on your goal but don't make it too obvious what you're trying to do. Make her KNOW that's what you're looking for but at the same time, you can't come on too strong because it might freak her out (since you're her friend right now). It's a very delicate balance.
 
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Originally posted by sinner
well... dont put all you're energy into attracting this one chick.. also flirt with other chicks... it worked for me
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Exactly, if she see it, she'll know that she's not the only apple of your eye. It'll bring out the competitive spirit in her and she'll want to get you before those other girls do. Plus, she'll know that you have a life.
 
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