"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

One thing i will say: women create the "creeps and stalkers"

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

A

AJ84

Guest
Thanks AJ. I honestly don't expect and don't blame any woman for minimizing or denying the emotional rollercoaster thing when it's brought out overtly, and no one is comfortable with the idea that someone is "manipulating" them (by learning rather than being born with good game), so your word on that is as good as it'll get. In any case, of course it's calibrated to the woman and just like approaching and holding conversations is something men learn by experience. I suppose #2 and #3 are more palatable.
Ok maybe I’m misinterpreting what you mean when you say emotional roller coaster. To me that means strategically making her feel really good about being with you, then doing or saying something that causes her to doubt where she stands with you, making her feel worried, insecure, or bad about herself. On and off like that?
 

marvinlfloresq

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 2, 2018
Messages
194
Reaction score
74
Age
46
Really? Personal insults? You can do better than that. If you don't agree with what is posted then refute it like a grown-up.
So which testicle was he holding? (Slap)



Anyways, your essay was too-f@ck1ng- long to read & I am not going to read it. Get over it brother, I am not your therapist. Peace, you sensitive snow flake...
 
Last edited:

AttackFormation

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 2, 2014
Messages
4,062
Reaction score
3,617
Age
33
Location
Sweden
Ok maybe I’m misinterpreting what you mean when you say emotional roller coaster. To me that means strategically making her feel really good about being with you, then doing or saying something that causes her to doubt where she stands with you, making her feel worried, insecure, or bad about herself. On and off like that?
That's just push-pull, although "making her feel bad about herself" is not something you need to do.

ERC to me is a bigger picture: it means that you comprehensively stimulate a woman's emotional life. Any emotion is a kind of excitement, while the absence of emotion is boredom. So you want to make her feel... love, hate*, jealousy, lust, playfulness, respect. You have to make this distinction of the ERC because otherwise guys will think that "excitement" means "entertainment" which any blue pilled guy could say, and that's not at all what it is.

* "Hate" is simply from empirical experience. I don't mean that you should be obnoxious, and actually make a woman detest you. It's simply that ime and I would think most guys' experience as well, a woman who says she "hates" me means I'm being c0cky and contrarian, and she likes it.
 
Last edited:
A

AJ84

Guest
That's just push-pull, although "making her feel bad about herself" is not something you need to do.

ERC to me is a bigger picture: it means that you comprehensively stimulate a woman's emotional life. Any emotion is a kind of excitement, while the absence of emotion is boredom. So you want to make her feel... love, hate, jealousy, lust, playfulness, respect. You have to make this distinction of the ERC because otherwise guys will think that "excitement" means "entertainment" which any blue pilled guy could say, and that's not at all what it is.
Ok I think I understand better what you mean now. Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

AttackFormation

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 2, 2014
Messages
4,062
Reaction score
3,617
Age
33
Location
Sweden
Top