RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Really? Personal insults? You can do better than that. If you don't agree with what is posted then refute it like a grown-up.Are you holding his left nut or right? Keep that thought.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Really? Personal insults? You can do better than that. If you don't agree with what is posted then refute it like a grown-up.Are you holding his left nut or right? Keep that thought.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Ok maybe I’m misinterpreting what you mean when you say emotional roller coaster. To me that means strategically making her feel really good about being with you, then doing or saying something that causes her to doubt where she stands with you, making her feel worried, insecure, or bad about herself. On and off like that?Thanks AJ. I honestly don't expect and don't blame any woman for minimizing or denying the emotional rollercoaster thing when it's brought out overtly, and no one is comfortable with the idea that someone is "manipulating" them (by learning rather than being born with good game), so your word on that is as good as it'll get. In any case, of course it's calibrated to the woman and just like approaching and holding conversations is something men learn by experience. I suppose #2 and #3 are more palatable.
So which testicle was he holding? (Slap)Really? Personal insults? You can do better than that. If you don't agree with what is posted then refute it like a grown-up.
That's just push-pull, although "making her feel bad about herself" is not something you need to do.Ok maybe I’m misinterpreting what you mean when you say emotional roller coaster. To me that means strategically making her feel really good about being with you, then doing or saying something that causes her to doubt where she stands with you, making her feel worried, insecure, or bad about herself. On and off like that?
Ok I think I understand better what you mean now. Thanks.That's just push-pull, although "making her feel bad about herself" is not something you need to do.
ERC to me is a bigger picture: it means that you comprehensively stimulate a woman's emotional life. Any emotion is a kind of excitement, while the absence of emotion is boredom. So you want to make her feel... love, hate, jealousy, lust, playfulness, respect. You have to make this distinction of the ERC because otherwise guys will think that "excitement" means "entertainment" which any blue pilled guy could say, and that's not at all what it is.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Any time AJ.Ok I think I understand better what you mean now. Thanks.