One thing I’ll never understand about women

[jhonny9546]

And as BeExcellent pointed out, that a lot of men don't understand is a man that understands covert and subconscious female communication will attract women.... on that skill alone. It makes women feel comfortable and brings out their confidence and desire to open up(their legs too). A woman wants to feel connected and understood.

If you said earlier that gymbros attract fat women because they only have that quality, what kind of women (after the dots) do men with the ability to communicate subconsciously attract? The same low-quality ones?
It's curious, because men who are very skilled at this, in my experience, have attracted very insecure and low-quality women, and the relationship was a one-way ticket to manipulation and trauma bonding.

external validation

And how many women do you know who rely on internal validation?
If you know them, I'll give you my number and let me know
But I already know there won't be any call. (Expecially in modern society).


This doesn't rule out the fact that, fundamentally, in terms of attracting quality, healthy women, a man must have the skill of a player.
You might be good at subconscious communication, and as mentioned above, still attract low-quality women.

It would be helpful to understand this better.
A man who works out and has a good physique is a symbol of health, commitment, dedication, and goals.

 

[Dash Riprock]

All that said, looks are down the totem pole of importance when it comes to attracting women. Intelligence combined with charm and social grace is powerful. Add in social proof and the man is going to do well even if he is an overall plain looking guy.

In the world of online dating, where most people meet these days, looks are the 99% of it.

 

[Cheeky_James]

Why do they like these feminine barely in the closet performative men types? I usually see the hyper masculine gym bro guys ugly or fat women lol. Meanwhile, questionably pretty boys like bad bunny and Harry Styles are getting the hotter woman.

because truth is women really, really love Pretty Boys tbh.
Pretty Boys are up top of the pile for a lot of women IRL.
I mean, Jason Mamoa is up there too. Not sure who’s winning out. Pretty Boys possibly.

Harry Styles, Timothy Charlemont, Machine Gun Kelly , etc etc
Women are obsessed with beauty , so….

 

[tksniper]

Why do they like these feminine barely in the closet performative men types? I usually see the hyper masculine gym bro guys ugly or fat women lol. Meanwhile, questionably pretty boys like bad bunny and Harry Styles are getting the hotter woman.

Women spend all damn day to look pretty. So when they see an effortless looking pretty boy, they are attracted to his dominance. Women are attracted to dominance more than anything in the world.

If you think being pretty isn’t a dominant attribute, than you are lacking brain cells. Pretty people attract attention, sell movies, make companies billions of dollars, and contribute heavily to the economy.

I was a pretty boy growing up in high school and my thought process was the opposite of the OP. I was thinking “why do women go for ugly guys?” It made no damn sense to me. But now as an adult, I know all men can be dominant in some way.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Why do they like these feminine barely in the closet performative men types? I usually see the hyper masculine gym bro guys ugly or fat women lol. Meanwhile, questionably pretty boys like bad bunny and Harry Styles are getting the hotter woman.

This strange hangup with who other men screw keeps popping up here. Why?

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I know the answer in part is due to birth control. Hormonal BC makes women prefer more agreeable and "provider" type men. This doesn't fully explain it but I believe it's a big part of it.

Another possible reason, which is one I've increasingly suspected, is that modern women do not like men with strong frame and masculine boundaries, because they cannot be controlled. Modern women want men who are easily manipulated.

Also to note, even women who aren't on BC don't typically like big, hairy, uber-masculine men. They've always been more of a niche.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Because they can control them.