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One of the reasons why loner men struggle attracting women...

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I dont know man...... surrounding yourself with men to get women doesnt sound like a good plan to me.

While the women will propably get arroused by the sheer mass of masculinity, you will have to simp hard to outdo the other 10 guys simping for the womens attention. Especially in these days when 9 of 10 men are simps.

For me, pack-hunting on women has never produced enough juice that was worth the squeeze.

Off course you need the proper hunting grounds, but once you are there, you are on your own anyway and there is no need to bring competition showering womens egos with attention.

Locate, isolate, escalate!
Oh man I agree with the pack-hunting. I’ve never ever pulled a chick at a party/club because I’m not made for the environment. Every chick has been hit on atleast 10 times that night by desperate dudes with bad lines. However give me a one on one and she will likely end up in my bed.
 

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Boyos, it looks like my strip club thread got locked (here) due to childish bickering, which is a shame because there was some useful info in there.

I'd like to revisit one of the points I made in that thread:

"Women specifically seek out places where men congregate to get some of that precious validation that's more important to them than air."

Before the shamdemic, I used to play basketball at the gym with a group of guys, and sure enough women would quite frequently show up on the courts to do their "stretching", which is quite ridiculous because about 20 feet away from the courts is an empty cardio room for them to do their stretching in private.

Or at one of my former jobs, we used to have poker nights in the warehouse where the guys would play poker and shoot the breeze... and sure enough, some women would always linger around trying to "get in on the game"....

Or when I was a kid and we'd ride our bmx bikes and skateboards down at the skate park and dumb females would "hang out at the skate park" supposedly minding their own business...

These days, we have a phenomena where women are trying to "offer advice" in manosphere circles. There's also a new thing where females are now claiming femcel status and trying to infiltrate the Blackpill communities....

Women ALWAYS gravitate towards places where men congregate, whether these men be ballers on the courts or incels in Blackpill sub-reddits, women crave attention.

Women love that feeling of being the queen bee calling the shots amongst a crowd of desperate drone bees. They get high off it. They're intoxicated from the feeling of being able to manipulate the males to compete with each other for their attention.

And this is why loner men struggle with women. These guys are always by themselves and never with a group of other guys doing masculine activities, and so they miss out on opportunities to engage with females.

For the loner guys, I would suggest hanging out in androcentric settings like basketball courts, lifting weights outdoors, or doing any other masculine activities.

Unless you've got Chad status, being a loner is a liability in the sexual market.

Here's a scene from one of my favorite show Spartacus: Blood and Sand.

In this scene, the hottie Illythia gets sexual aroused seeing all the gladiators training. It's a natural reaction that women have when they find themselves in a high testosterone environment.

Here is another reason: guys who consider themselves "loners" typically are not very confident in any social settings, let alone with women. They tend to have poor social skills in that they cannot (and generally do not enjoy) reading people, responding to social stimuli, and most importantly getting others to respond to their own actions in a social setting.

Your advice here won't do them any good. It is a mindset and is entrenched by doing. They have to desire to be with and interact with women and people on a broader scale. Just wanting to have sex with women is not going to work - it is the end result.
 
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"Femcels" trying to infiltrate the Blackpill.....

Timestamped the exact spot, no need for you to watch the whole vid if you don't want to.


.... h0es faking their -cel status for easy validation and attention.....

Boyos, this should be proof enough that any community activity or subculture where lots of males congregate will attract female attention.

It doesn't even matter if it's a completely nihilistic, toxic and deranged subculture, if men congregate in large numbers you can rest assured h0es will rush in like moths to a flame...

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Being a loner doesn't matter that much if you're a sigma male, dgaf, and have decent social skills.

These days, being a loner is much more common due to covid and less frowned upon

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Volleyball is probably the best sport option to meet women. Sand is what you want. Women in sports bras and bikinis. Though you want to be tallish and with reasonably low body fat to pull it off. Volleyball babes are usually 5'9" - 6'1".
Great! I'll join a sand volleyball league or club.
 

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This is a typical single female late 20s and beyond who struggles to have LTRs.

There is a female equivalent of the incel, either called the femcel or insol (Chateau Heartiste coined that one). Insol is involuntarily solitude and the idea that committed relationships are the equivalent for women that sex is for men.

The insol female gets laid on at least a semi-regular basis and usually has passable social skills. She's more mainstream that the extreme incel guys.
 

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And to add to this, even being at the top of your looks won't get you laid if you're a loner, certainly not with any consistency. You could be 6'3 and ripped but if you aren't where the women are, it's not gonna happen. That's why online is so popular but it will never be a real substitute.
My city is still on lockdown no other place to meet women besides online or social circle
any ideas?
 

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And this is why loner men struggle with women. These guys are always by themselves and never with a group of other guys doing masculine activities, and so they miss out on opportunities to engage with females.

For the loner guys, I would suggest hanging out in androcentric settings like basketball courts, lifting weights outdoors, or doing any other masculine activities.
Completely disagree. I'm a mtn biker and like nightriding alone. I'm an off road desert racer, this is me against hundreds of hard charging competitors. I shoot metallic silhouette, this is an alone sport. I do not like smelling sweaty dudes at the gym. I do not prefer basketball. I've never needed other guys around to show off or get the nerve up to pull woman. Definitely do better on my own. The last dingbat I let live with me, it took one month before she called me at work to ask if I could bring Subway sandwiches home. She was out of work. For me alone is bliss. I DO NOT STRUGGLE. One thing that is common on SS is inmates speak for others quiet often.
 

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I had a terrible experience with volleyball. Turned up as a beginner and this tiny hot chick who was a bit too commando kept moving into my space taking my shots. After the 10th time just let her bounce off me. Then some white knight dude gave me a spray for 'dangerous play'. I told him to go **** himself and walked. I think it was because there were only 2 chicks there. You definitely need a group with a good ratio or the white knighting gets outa control.

Yea I know the kB alphas will say I should have picked up the hottie. Let's just say I prefer to fish in a bucket rather than hunt in a c0ck forest.
 
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I had a terrible experience with volleyball. Turned up as a beginner and this tiny hot chick who was a bit too commando kept moving into my space taking my shots. After the 10th time just let her bounce off me. Then some white knight dude gave me a spray for 'dangerous play'. I told him to go **** himself and walked. I think it was because there were only 2 chicks there. You definitely need a group with a good ratio or the white knighting gets outa control.

Yea I know the kB alphas will say I should have picked up the hottie. Let's just say I prefer to fish in a bucket rather than hunt in a c0ck forest.

BINGO!!! My man right here, he gets it.....

Women seek out large congregations of men because they know SIMPs will fight amongst each other for female attention... It's easy validation for them.

Let's take the basketball courts. This is a high testosterone, highly competitive environment. When a female shows up, and especially if she's attractive, guys on the courts will up the level of trash talking and competition to impress the female (whether consciously or subconsciously)....

Women get high off of the validation they get from seeing men fight amongst themselves for their affection....

This is why at my gym women love to do their stretching on the basketball courts instead of the cardio room that's literally just 20 feet away....

I'm not saying this is a healthy environment nor is it productive for a man to congregate in groups with other men solely for the reason of attracting women, I'm just pointing out one of the reasons why loner men struggle with women is simply due to having less opportunities to interact with them, and also they lack experience when dealing with other guys trying to one-up them in the presence of women.
 

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Also, fellas, there's no shame in being a loner. It's the natural course of life for men.

When we're kids in school we have our group of friends and our own subcultures (ballers, skaters, videogame nerds, theater nerds, etc).....

As we enter our 20s we go our separate ways into college or we enter the work force. As we approach our 30s we start families and have no time for friends, at best we have acquaintances.

As we approach our 40s the responsibilities of life and adulthood take up all our time.

It's natural and to be expected that men become loners as they age.
 

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Yeah i don't want to bring you young guns down. But ask dr google how people can make friends over 40 and you will soon see it is a really issue
 
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