One of the oddest pick-up attempts I've had...

[Effington]

Was out at a bar last week, and found a target, she was dancing with one of her girlfriends. I told my buddy she was cute and he kinda challenged me, he's like, oh yeah, what are you gonna do? Anyway, I just grabbed her hand and spun her around and started dancing with her, and she was very receptive. After about a minute she asked my name and we sat down and started chatting. I started minor kino and things seemed to be fine, we talked for about 5-10 minutes when I felt the conversation was slowing, so I told her I had to go say hi to my buddies on the other side of the bar, but I'd be back later.

Found her about an hour or so later, she was in the same place just chilling with her friends. I gave some smart remark, like, what are you guys still doing here...same spot I left ya. They laughed and she introduced me to her friends, and we chatted for about 10 minutes about whatever, what she was doing this weekend, where her friends are from, etc. I told her she should give me her number, and she was like, hmm...nah.

The weird part was after she said no, she still wanted to keep chatting. She told me the crossroads she lived at and asked where I lived, saying we should hang out again. I was like, uhh, I live north by the lake. I thought it was weird that she essentially shot me down but still wanted to continue the conversation. I left very shortly after that.

Has this type of thing happened to anyone else? She obviously wasn't interested enough to give me her number, but wanted to make idle conversation with a random stranger that would do nothing but waste time?

 

[bukowski_merit]

hmmmm...

i would guess she has a boyfriend (or a guy she's working on something with)... was she alone when you asked for it or with her friends? why not just ask her to come home with you that night?

if the phone fails, but there's a good chemistry going - i assume a boyfriend is involved and ask for an email (they can be sneaky and do this), or try to set her up for a ONS (not bluntly though).

 

[Darth]

Fvuck the spin thing rules. The thing where you twirl her cuz it looks like you're testing her elegance in her dancing. That owns.

This is nice.

 

[touge]

Yea you would've said it out of context, possibly when you guys were talking about something interesting.

Keep her on the edge, don't just spill it out

she could've had bad experiences in the past with giving her number out, but yea its not that she shot you down, she was still interested just didn't want to relate through the whole phone number thing.

 

[MisterMcGee]

I know a girl like this, don't worry. It's her defensiveness kicking in, not her disinterest.