Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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One More Meeting Before Break

NewAndImproved

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Met this HB7.5 a few weeks ago. We've hung out a few times since. Invited me up for a get together to celebrate end of finals. It's the last time we'll hang out before winter break. We haven't kissed. Should that be my goal? I see this more as a long term thing instead of just a hook up.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dannyrt34

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Never make these specific goals for dates. It will only put added pressure, since having this goal will make you constantly think about the kiss during the date. Then you'll be analyzing every thing that happens on the date thinking "Should I go for the kiss now?". If it's the last time you'll see each other before break, make it a goal to have a memorable impression.

Be in the moment for the date. If the opportunity for a kiss arises, DON'T PASS IT UP!
 

crazymedstudent

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Dannyrt34 said:
Never make these specific goals for dates. It will only put added pressure, since having this goal will make you constantly think about the kiss during the date. Then you'll be analyzing every thing that happens on the date thinking "Should I go for the kiss now?". If it's the last time you'll see each other before break, make it a goal to have a memorable impression.

Be in the moment for the date. If the opportunity for a kiss arises, DON'T PASS IT UP!
I agree. You goal for any date is to have fun youself. Don't try to please the girl cause all girls can see past that BS. The best you can do is keep it light and fun and show her 'why' you are a fun guy. The rest should fall into place.
 

brian123

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Dannyrt34 said:
Never make these specific goals for dates. It will only put added pressure, since having this goal will make you constantly think about the kiss during the date. Then you'll be analyzing every thing that happens on the date thinking "Should I go for the kiss now?". If it's the last time you'll see each other before break, make it a goal to have a memorable impression.

Be in the moment for the date. If the opportunity for a kiss arises, DON'T PASS IT UP!

I totally agree. I just had a similar situation with a girl. I knew I would get to see her for a month or so, and she'd be going home to hang out with her sisters (who gossip). This girl and I hadnt kissed, so I just made it my goal to have a great time with her, and really do something fun.

We didn't end up kissing (I kind of just want her to to "want" the kiss) but I know I def made a lasting impression on her, and she had alot of fun. So I know she will go home and talk with her sisters about what we did and that will make me sound even better.
 

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She invited you, so that's good. How she see's you, we have no idea since we aren't there. So... there's only way to find out. Make a move, if she likes you then she'll be receptive to ur moves. If not, then she doesn't. Simple as that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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