"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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One important fact about dating

00Kevin

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What is dating?
It is a temporary romantic agreement between two relative strangers who know only the basic facts about each other and who's intention is often to "test the waters"

therefore if you get LJBF the girl is ending this agreement.

when that happens there is no more agreement and you had best stop talking to her.

LJBF = END OF CONTRACT!

AFCs get that through your thick head! That is the first step to breaking the cycle of abuse that you put yourself through.

Sticking around when you have been LJBFed is like working for someone without getting paid.

You back away from this agreement just like you would any other agreement. You say thank you. If that person has more work for you (or rather the girl wants you again) then it is up to them to call you back.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LuJu BuFu








Let's Just Be Friends. or

Look, Just Beat it Freak or

Long Johns, Beef Franks
 

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would it not be a good idea tho to go ahead and keep her as a friend as social-proof? Surely there is a way you can make the best of it for little effort?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by 00Kevin

What is dating?
It is a temporary romantic agreement between two relative strangers who know only the basic facts about each other and who's intention is often to "test the waters"

therefore if you get LJBF the girl is ending this agreement.

when that happens there is no more agreement and you had best stop talking to her.

LJBF = END OF CONTRACT!

AFCs get that through your thick head! That is the first step to breaking the cycle of abuse that you put yourself through.

Sticking around when you have been LJBFed is like working for someone without getting paid.

You back away from this agreement just like you would any other agreement. You say thank you. If that person has more work for you (or rather the girl wants you again) then it is up to them to call you back.

Umm, no. How bout using the woman, if she's attractive, as a wing or pivot.
 

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wow kevin that's soooo deep and original. Don't you get
tired of posting the same obvious crap that we've heard from 100 different kbj's already today?
 

00Kevin

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Originally posted by smoke city
wow kevin that's soooo deep and original. Don't you get
tired of posting the same obvious crap that we've heard from 100 different kbj's already today?
I get tired of reading posts from people who don't even get what I just posted.
 

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Re: Re: One important fact about dating

Originally posted by bobbob
Umm, no. How bout using the woman, if she's attractive, as a wing or pivot.
regardless your interest should end in her and you should move on.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by smoke city
wow kevin that's soooo deep and original. Don't you get
tired of posting the same obvious crap that we've heard from 100 different kbj's already today?
He's just trying to answer the same questino that we've heard from 100 guys who got LJBF'd already today...

his posts may seem obvious, but it's still a point missed by half the thread starters around here
 

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yea thats sound advice, and very true. But there is the also this arguement to consider:
girls talk to their mates all the time about guys and stuff, so if your just "friends" with a girl, you could find that you have an easier time getting into her mates.
 
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