"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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One important fact about dating

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What is dating?
It is a temporary romantic agreement between two relative strangers who know only the basic facts about each other and who's intention is often to "test the waters"

therefore if you get LJBF the girl is ending this agreement.

when that happens there is no more agreement and you had best stop talking to her.

LJBF = END OF CONTRACT!

AFCs get that through your thick head! That is the first step to breaking the cycle of abuse that you put yourself through.

Sticking around when you have been LJBFed is like working for someone without getting paid.

You back away from this agreement just like you would any other agreement. You say thank you. If that person has more work for you (or rather the girl wants you again) then it is up to them to call you back.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LuJu BuFu








Let's Just Be Friends. or

Look, Just Beat it Freak or

Long Johns, Beef Franks
 

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would it not be a good idea tho to go ahead and keep her as a friend as social-proof? Surely there is a way you can make the best of it for little effort?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by 00Kevin

What is dating?
It is a temporary romantic agreement between two relative strangers who know only the basic facts about each other and who's intention is often to "test the waters"

therefore if you get LJBF the girl is ending this agreement.

when that happens there is no more agreement and you had best stop talking to her.

LJBF = END OF CONTRACT!

AFCs get that through your thick head! That is the first step to breaking the cycle of abuse that you put yourself through.

Sticking around when you have been LJBFed is like working for someone without getting paid.

You back away from this agreement just like you would any other agreement. You say thank you. If that person has more work for you (or rather the girl wants you again) then it is up to them to call you back.

Umm, no. How bout using the woman, if she's attractive, as a wing or pivot.
 

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wow kevin that's soooo deep and original. Don't you get
tired of posting the same obvious crap that we've heard from 100 different kbj's already today?
 

00Kevin

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Originally posted by smoke city
wow kevin that's soooo deep and original. Don't you get
tired of posting the same obvious crap that we've heard from 100 different kbj's already today?
I get tired of reading posts from people who don't even get what I just posted.
 

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Re: Re: One important fact about dating

Originally posted by bobbob
Umm, no. How bout using the woman, if she's attractive, as a wing or pivot.
regardless your interest should end in her and you should move on.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by smoke city
wow kevin that's soooo deep and original. Don't you get
tired of posting the same obvious crap that we've heard from 100 different kbj's already today?
He's just trying to answer the same questino that we've heard from 100 guys who got LJBF'd already today...

his posts may seem obvious, but it's still a point missed by half the thread starters around here
 

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yea thats sound advice, and very true. But there is the also this arguement to consider:
girls talk to their mates all the time about guys and stuff, so if your just "friends" with a girl, you could find that you have an easier time getting into her mates.
 
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