"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
One hundred pushup challenge!
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Good to see I'm not alone Al Moh. I was considering not even posting my results since I thought I was doing this by myself.
Day 2
rest 90 seconds between each level (longer if required)
level 1 4
level 2 3
level 3 2
level 4 2
level 5 max (at least 4)
I've noticed slight improvement since Sunday. My strength seems to have to increased a little bit. I was able to complete the first 2 sets but struggled on the last 3. I did some push ups from my knees afterwards to make up for it. More than likely I will have to repeat this week NEXT week.
In Motion
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Feelin slighlty stronger since sunday.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I couldn't even come close to finishing my last set. It's a bit discouraging. But you have to remember where I'm starting out from. At the beginning of the week, I weighed myself. I was 280. I'm skinny except for my big belly but I have arms like wet noodles. That's a lot of weight for wet noodles to push off the floor.
But for what it's worth, I dropped 4 pounds this week and I think I have made progress though it may not seem like it yet. You have to remember that I'm doing cardio, either running or walking every day and I am now eating a healthier diet. The key is to take it ONE WEEK at a time. To me, this isn't the 100 push up challenge, it's the 'week 1 push up challenge'. Once I graduate from week 1, THEN I'll worry about week 2. Anyway, I'm definitely starting again on week 1 on Sunday. I WILL NOT give up!
Also, for anyone who is interested. Here's the ab workout that I'm starting today. I'm going to do it 3 times weekly on the same days I do push ups.
http://www.skippypodar.net/Fitness/abs2000.html
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Its going pretty well.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Even thinking about doing that many in a short time span makes me feel like hurling. It's up there with hillsprints in my 'least favorite things' list.
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You're the man - when you finish the challenge, you'll be infinitely proud of yourself - and with good reason!Truman181 said:
Don't let yourself be discouraged by those guys who seem to have an easy time - remember that you're doing about twice the work they do!
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Good Job Guys!
Week 1's over!
Keep it up!
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Best of luck guys (and any gals in here.)
DarthAngel707
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Progress! Last week I was only able to do the first 2 sets. This week I didn't make the max push up on the final set (3) but I definitely have improved over last week. I may have to repeat week 1 one more time next week before finally moving on to week two. But that is okay, it's a marathon, not a sprint. I'm making progress...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.