"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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remember this chic "didnt actually do anything wrong"...she was very smart with her courteous cancellations, if that makes sense
No it doesnt make sense. Please explain.

confirmed i wasnt prepared to be her orbiter.....
Not exactly. She reeled you right back in after you jumped all over the crumbs she gave you like a hobo on a ham sandwich. Thats exactly what orbiters do.

She didnt do anything wrong? She canceled on you.....TWICE. Who died? How many days did she spend in the hospital? Cause thats what it would take me knowing before I ever answered a text from a woman like that again.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She didnt do anything wrong? She canceled on you.....TWICE. Who died? How many days did she spend in the hospital? Cause thats what it would take me knowing before I ever answered a text from a woman like that again.
fair point. and to top it off she was trash ffs lol
 

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Posted the other week about a girl "cancelling" on me twice....she was very smart at this, and used plausible reasons..

I then sent the following "this isnt working for me, take care" DM (followed by NC)

1) she recontacts me this weekend (standard result from no contact, works everytime)
2) Apologises asks if we can meet....
3) I counter offer
4) She turns up
5) we go out for a coffee & a walk. shes enthusiastic, but i notice she mentions she "likes to be in control".......(past LTRs total idiots)
6)mentions 2nd date, but whenever i escalated she gave me the worst kissing ever......I felt like was removing teeth.
7) She happily came back to mine after, however she postured herself awkwardly on the sofa with her knees facing me, kissing again felt pressured. I was now getting Erectile dysfunction. I dropped her back home.
8) ironically shes messaged me after, as if we had chemistry...........

So to sum up fellas, we have a total A.W here, who doesnt realise her little tricks only work on unaccomplished males.

The forum always says it best........"the ones who make it difficult are never worth it"
Ran into this problem recently too man! I'm giving this girl one more chance this Saturday though. We'll see what happens..
 

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Sort of off topic, but I'd like faith no more's version better... :cool:;)
It's cool....The video is a bit weird, but at least they didn't mess with the musical arrangement.
 

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Posted the other week about a girl "cancelling" on me twice....she was very smart at this, and used plausible reasons..

I then sent the following "this isnt working for me, take care" DM (followed by NC)

1) she recontacts me this weekend (standard result from no contact, works everytime)
2) Apologises asks if we can meet....
3) I counter offer
4) She turns up
5) we go out for a coffee & a walk. shes enthusiastic, but i notice she mentions she "likes to be in control".......(past LTRs total idiots)
6)mentions 2nd date, but whenever i escalated she gave me the worst kissing ever......I felt like was removing teeth.
7) She happily came back to mine after, however she postured herself awkwardly on the sofa with her knees facing me, kissing again felt pressured. I was now getting Erectile dysfunction. I dropped her back home.
8) ironically shes messaged me after, as if we had chemistry...........

So to sum up fellas, we have a total A.W here, who doesnt realise her little tricks only work on unaccomplished males.

The forum always says it best........"the ones who make it difficult are never worth it"

Amen!! When they make it difficult, the jumping through hoops & loss of dignity is never worth it.

Had a similar situation myself recently, I decided to drop the whole thing & walk.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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