"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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On the subject of hugging...

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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krd

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I agree that hugging is great. Just make sure you are comfortable doing it or you may screw it up. At this point I am still having a hard time with it, so when I do, it comes across as stiff and awkward. So my only advice would be to not even think about it, just go for it! I can't relly tell you how to get into this mindset, because I find it hard myself. But I know that this is one instance where thinking things through too much can actually be detrimental.
 

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I agree with the previous posts that you should just do it. I guess that it ultimately depends on how the two of you have hit it off over the last few dates. It's your third, so I suppose that it hasn't gone that bad so far. I assume that you haven't kissed her goodbye yet?

If it were me, I would hug on the first greeting of the date.
 

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Yikes! HRMMmmmMMMm YIKES! just yikes!

My situation is a bit odd tho, so all i can say is YIKES!

A certain attention ***** always comments about me not giving her a hug when im leaving or before im about to go. Previously, that has brought me to give her a hug, but last time she said "hes not giving me a hug before he leaves" to some people, i said "yup". Good or bad move? Keep in mind shes an attention ***** AND she has a boyfriend but has said she likes me LOL. Its pathetic i know.

I was thinking next time i was in a similar situation with her, to walk to her with my arms open and then turn away at the last moment. Good idea or no? I'm looking to not fall into the friends zone or to be someone she just uses for attention.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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When I give women hugs, I do not hesitate or put much thought into it. I hug them close to me, not the gay ass-out hugs people like to give now. I bring them in close and I've had women say to me "mmmm, you give good hugs." Sometimes I do throw in a kiss if I feel like it. It's escalating on my behalf, not friendzoning on hers tbh.
 
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