PlayHer Man said:
So any man who just wants to have sex and not get into a "serious relationship" is a loser? :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
I see women for the purpose they serve in my life. To some people a car is only for getting from point A to point B. To others its much more. To some people a dog is just a security system for their house. To others its much more. Who the f*ck are you to judge?
That's one of the biggest feminist/white knight statements I've seen here in a while bro.
How about you explain this claim. WHY is a man a "loser" for only wanting to have sex and stay single? Do tell..
I'm going to have to disagree about the "biggest feminist/white knight statements in a while" thing.
My feeling is that zekko was pointing out that the guys he's talking about are only swapping one partial blindness for another. If you swear off all emotion and see women only in terms of sex, you will get blindsided sooner or later. If you see them in terms of all they are, but then decide only to value the sex side of them, it's a completely different thing because you will be accounting for all the other parts, even if you only "use" them for sex. Which, by the way, I'm not judging, it's totally up to you. Seriously.
The key point, I feel, in all of this, is the
ability to make conscious, free and informed choices. If you end up in the corporate rat race in a boring or tedious job because you've been told that's the way the world works or there's no other way to live, then you're ****ed even if you end up making lots of money because you're trapped in a very narrow mindset. Most importantly, you are not
free. If you end up in a poisonous relationship because you can't picture any other way to ever have female company, or if you get your ass handed to you emotionally by women all the time, because you've been told you should cherish women and <insert the usual crap here>, then you're ****ed, but in a way, it's not your fault.
Of course we don't get tired out pointing the finger at the stupid, stupid men who get caught and fail to see the light, but I know first hand how a situation can seem to be without any escape because you've simply never been taught the concept of "more than one truth." I'd like to point out that most of us here had to come to this forum to be able to escape from the depths of society's painted picture of women and relationships... how many of us could have climbed out of there totally on our own? We do feel vastly superior to all the other men but it would do us good to remember our beginnings.
Anyway. More and more I get the feeling that whatever way you chose to live your life is fine as long as you make free choices. Going into the corporate rat race is fine if you know what it entails, what you hope to win through it and that there were alternatives. But it's equally fine to try and find your passions, even if it means not making a killing.
What is being taken away from us today, and that feeling is part of the reason I started this thread (the other, of course, being the red pill with respect to women), is the possibility to explore our passions. We're groomed to spot something we can do well and is paid well, then forced to keep doing that for the rest of our lives for the "good of society", never mind if there's other things we can do well or like to do more if they make less money.
Similarly, if a guy is aware of the workings of hypergamy, of the female imperative and the likes, he can make a free, conscious choice. He can chose to stay single and have a string of women go through his bedroom. He can chose to take his chances with hypergamy and date and marry a girl (or just stay with one).
Why would anyone who's read all about the red pill, all of Rollo's, all of Roissy's make that choice, you ask? Well, because we're all prone to think we've found "the exception to the rule". Of course this forum is full of guys who thought they had found just that.
I dunno. Life is full of risks, and who is better prepared for the rocky path of a relationship with a woman than a guy who knows the inner workings and is expecting all the bumps, and the cliff at the end? At least you can pack a para-glider and enjoy the fall.
I think the key might be to be free of facades, games and pretense. One of the comments I linked to in my first post by Mark Minter starts with him quoting some "alpha guru"'s descriptions of what it means to be alpha in a marriage, how you have to constantly be in alpha mode so the relationship doesn't fall apart. He rightly concludes that this description is full of crap. The thought of having to be constantly working at keeping her interested is sickening. It's only a different version of the "uninformed beta male" game (flowers, gifts, money, etc.) In both cases you are going out of your way because of what someone told you is vital to keeping a girl interested.
Finding your dream job and a girl who won't leave you for the next hotter thing despite her hypergamy seems to be a matter of total honesty with oneself at this point. If you keep re-affirming that you won't be taken for a lazy guy who minds working hard for whatever cause, don't be surprised if you find yourself in a hard job that offers you no satisfaction. If you keep displaying hardcore "alpha properties", don't be surprised if you find yourself with a girl who leaves you as that facade starts to crack.
Possibly, if you start being honest with yourself about what you really want, you might stop pretending to like certain things and admit to liking other things, and that might just lead you to meet people like you, who will be
GLAD they've found someone just like them, which might eventually lead you to find people with the same passions and possibly a job (or occupation) in that direction.
So much for the job/passion part. As for the women/hypergamy part, I'm not sure. I don't doubt the concept for one moment but the question is how to deal with it. Stay single for the rest of my life? Certainly more attractive than constant fighting. But not really satisfying. Of course, finding my passion in life might relieve me of a sizable chunk of my desire for a woman.