"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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On OLD short and snappy messeges work best, asking a question about her hobby

Stephen89

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I spoke to a women who said she responds to men who talk about her likes or something about her profile which were video gaming, she responded to just a question.

Also I've talked to a successful man who written nothing but seven, eight words on her likes, interests and he got replays back.

I tried this and becoming successful on OLD. Just by asking a question on what movie did she watch last, where is her favourite holiday destination, what is her favourite animal.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm not sure how most guys don't know that asking questions will lead you to good places. What the hell type of messages do.most guys send??
 

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I'm not sure how most guys don't know that asking questions will lead you to good places. What the hell type of messages do.most guys send??
This. People in general love talking about themselves. For women, that is doubly true. If you ask questions about them, and seem genuinely interested in their hobbies, you will build rapport with them.
 

Hal9000

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Its a tried and true formula, whether corresponding online or on an actual date. Chicks favorite topic is themselves so just pay attention and keep asking questions. You'll know you've got a good one when they actually make an attempt to do the same to you. Ive gone on so many dates where they talk about themselves all night and never ask me a single thing. Then they say they want to go out again. Nope!
 

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Over the years, I've attended a lot of high school homecoming (football) games, and it seems like ALL the gals in the Homecoming Court say that shopping is their favorite hobby. :rolleyes:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Some of my OLD openers as of late:

LL: "Hey there (HerName), what's shakin' in (HerTown). Have the zombies came to raid your TP supply yet? if you aren't too busy defending your stash message me.."

LL: "Hey there (HerName), what's going on there in (HerTown)? Did you hear about the latest refugee crisis in Illinois? All of the penguins from the South Pole are migrating to Illinois because it's colder here now!" (this works on really cold days only obviously)

LL: "Hey what's shakin' (HerName)? I see on your profile that you are a hockey fan. I might consider talking to you so long as you don't like the Blackhawks.. Go Blues!!!! "

LL: "Hey there (Hername).. Nice picture of the fish you caught. Did you give it a big fat kiss before you cooked it for dinner? lmao"

I do admit that I do read every one of their profiles and I don't just look at pics. Because with a lot of them if their profile reads like they are too much of a bytch I move on...
 
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