That_Guy49
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What are y'alls philosophies on DJing girls with boyfriends?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
On girls with BFs
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I don't think a DJ should need to hit on a girl who has a BF. I don't want guys hitting on girls I'm with (it'll happen, but I don't respect that), so why I should I be right in hitting on another guys girl?
There's more fish in the sea, and if she's single later it's alright.... while a girl's with someone it's not only an ******* move, but her boyfriend probably is either ripped or has friends who are ripped, and you don't want to get your sh!t rocked and your reputation screwed over for some chick.
There's more fish in the sea, and if she's single later it's alright.... while a girl's with someone it's not only an ******* move, but her boyfriend probably is either ripped or has friends who are ripped, and you don't want to get your sh!t rocked and your reputation screwed over for some chick.
InsidiousNstinct
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Don't do it. My easiest reply yet.
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
if you do it don't expect anything long term with her
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
What if they're going to break up, but haven't yet officially?
You should wait until they break up officially and ask the guy right? Or just wait until they breakup?
I'm a strong supporter of "bros before hos" but now more than ever, I am being tested.
You should wait until they break up officially and ask the guy right? Or just wait until they breakup?
I'm a strong supporter of "bros before hos" but now more than ever, I am being tested.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Heizen
Senior Don Juan
I wouldnt fully DJ a girl with a BF. I would kind of 'plant the seeds', if you will. Do a little flirting, enough to let her know you are interested, but dont go all out and dont go calling er up every day trying to hang out.
Part of this is just out of mutual respect. I know some DJs dont play by any rules, but I know I would flip my **** if I knew a guy was pursuing my girl, so if I know the guy and he is a good person (not some ****) then I wont pursue it out of respect.
Part of this is just out of mutual respect. I know some DJs dont play by any rules, but I know I would flip my **** if I knew a guy was pursuing my girl, so if I know the guy and he is a good person (not some ****) then I wont pursue it out of respect.
AnkleBreaker
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What if the girl with the b/f is pursuing you?
Dont wanna hijack this thread but i know this chick will call her (carmen) she has been with her b/f for like a year ive known her like 6 months.
So carmen is showing me lots of signs of intrest but i play it cool since every guy she knows gives her all the attention she wants and i just ignore her.
Tease her all the time ****y/funny make fun of her truck her shoes etc. Like i asked her to let me borrow a doller of course she gave it to me, then i asked for another doller to buy a coke so carmen walked all the way to the coke machine and bought me a coke.
Then i guess she felt like i used her since i got 2 dollers off her so the next day she asked me for 1 doller im like ok since i owe you atleast 2 dollers then she ask for another im like i aint givin you ****.
So she beggs me i say your gonna have to give me a lap dance she says no, so i say show me sum skin she raises her shirt up and shows me her bra, and im like thats it so i turn around and she says come here and flashes her tits at me lol.
She also took my god dam cell phone and was lookin at all the chicks numbers i had and said she was gonna beat one of them up since she didnt like them.
So she stuck it in her pocket and wouldnt give it back so im like im going to have to frisk you i turn her around start at the top go to the bottom and grab her ass and say alright your clean
So yea i know her b/f hates me i was walkin to my car and he saw me and just mean mugged me and pulled off real fast with his truck rofl.
And then this afc that likes her was like what did you do to her she likes you alot. rofl
Dont wanna hijack this thread but i know this chick will call her (carmen) she has been with her b/f for like a year ive known her like 6 months.
So carmen is showing me lots of signs of intrest but i play it cool since every guy she knows gives her all the attention she wants and i just ignore her.
Tease her all the time ****y/funny make fun of her truck her shoes etc. Like i asked her to let me borrow a doller of course she gave it to me, then i asked for another doller to buy a coke so carmen walked all the way to the coke machine and bought me a coke.
Then i guess she felt like i used her since i got 2 dollers off her so the next day she asked me for 1 doller im like ok since i owe you atleast 2 dollers then she ask for another im like i aint givin you ****.
So she beggs me i say your gonna have to give me a lap dance she says no, so i say show me sum skin she raises her shirt up and shows me her bra, and im like thats it so i turn around and she says come here and flashes her tits at me lol.
She also took my god dam cell phone and was lookin at all the chicks numbers i had and said she was gonna beat one of them up since she didnt like them.
So she stuck it in her pocket and wouldnt give it back so im like im going to have to frisk you i turn her around start at the top go to the bottom and grab her ass and say alright your clean
So yea i know her b/f hates me i was walkin to my car and he saw me and just mean mugged me and pulled off real fast with his truck rofl.
And then this afc that likes her was like what did you do to her she likes you alot. rofl
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I think you should just have a respect for a fellow DJ. But if he is some *sshole b*tch, then leave your calling card all over that girls *ss.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
Same situation here. I think she's dumping her BF for me....but not officially dumped yet. School just started and I guess she doesn't wanna hurt him. This guy is REALLY attached to her, and they're been together for a little over 1 year.
I don't wanna backstab this guy, being the reason he loses the love of his life. I'm so confused.
Anyways, so far we have: Don't mess with unless the guy is an ass. Any other pointers?
Patrick124
Master Don Juan
Simple: I don't ever ask if she has a bf, I assume she doesn't.
If she goes ot my school though, I wouldn't touch a chick with a bf because Grudges are no fun.
Unless i was drunk of course. then ***** is *****. I have friends to abck me up in that situation
If she goes to a diff school and you find otu after DJing ehr for a motnh with good results..I'd stop pursuing..btu if she makes a move, its all on her shoulders.
I guess i'm an *******.
If she goes ot my school though, I wouldn't touch a chick with a bf because Grudges are no fun.
Unless i was drunk of course. then ***** is *****. I have friends to abck me up in that situation
If she goes to a diff school and you find otu after DJing ehr for a motnh with good results..I'd stop pursuing..btu if she makes a move, its all on her shoulders.
I guess i'm an *******.
AFK Protector
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I'm just gonna keep her begging for me, so I still have the chick when I need her, and the BF is fine. Then when he goes out with another girl, I'll reel this one in.
Pat you're right. Grudges aer no fun.
Pat you're right. Grudges aer no fun.
big bump, pretty much i'm in a smiliar situation with this girl who has a boyfriend.
I gave her a little bit of attention, talked to her in halls, kinoed her a tad etc etc. then kinda ignored her for a while and stuff. anyways this girl started to really get flirtatious with me and grabbed my arms and started to kino me. then we were talking and randomly she blurted out she has a boyfriend blah blah, i ignore it. now this girl seems to be showing me interest but she does have a boyfriend but he goes to another school. Should i try to pursue this?? Is she interested in me as a boyfriend to replace her current boyfriend or just as a friend that she flirts with. Yeah i know i'm overanalyzing this but damn. I don't really wanna ruin it cause i can use her as social proof for other women.
I gave her a little bit of attention, talked to her in halls, kinoed her a tad etc etc. then kinda ignored her for a while and stuff. anyways this girl started to really get flirtatious with me and grabbed my arms and started to kino me. then we were talking and randomly she blurted out she has a boyfriend blah blah, i ignore it. now this girl seems to be showing me interest but she does have a boyfriend but he goes to another school. Should i try to pursue this?? Is she interested in me as a boyfriend to replace her current boyfriend or just as a friend that she flirts with. Yeah i know i'm overanalyzing this but damn. I don't really wanna ruin it cause i can use her as social proof for other women.
idiot_boyfriend
Senior Don Juan
A DJ wouldn't try to get a girl with a boyfriend.
A DJ would find another gal worthy of him.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
arcilitei34
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Re: Re: On girls with BFs
Ditto, i find it dishonorable to DJ another girl who already has a relationship going.
Ditto, i find it dishonorable to DJ another girl who already has a relationship going.
But what if her bf lives 7 hours away? I've been pursuing a chic who's bf lives 7 hours away and its mutual interest but she still says "I like him very much" She just seems so. . . right for me. Granted I dont believe in the whole "one" thing, but I could list 10 things we have in common off of the top of my head. We've already hung out, and gone on a coupld dates. Hell, we even kissed, but she is still "boyfriended" in her words. I think she'll come alround, but I can feel the oneitis coming over already . . .
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normally I dont give a fvck about honor
But Bros before Hos.
generally, anyway.
if the guy's an idiot, he doesnt count
But Bros before Hos.
generally, anyway.
if the guy's an idiot, he doesnt count
AFK Protector
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Honor > All
Bros > Hos
My oneitis, the girl I've wanted for 4 years, just broke up with her BF. I was like, "yes...I'm moving in."
But today in the halls, I saw the guys face, and all I saw was pain. And I'm like, "sh1t....I can't do this." Call me a pvssy, but right after they break up and stuff, I can't just go in and kick him while he's down. If anything I will just go to dances and stuff with the girl, but not make it offcial. Seriously..this guy was serious about the girl and was funny, provided everything etc. but he got dumped....
I'll never forget the look on his face though. It said to me, "AFK, please don't do this to me." It was pitiful, but then again, grudges are no fun, and I'm not going to mess sh1t up. It's hard to make the right decision....
but your situation isdifferent from mine. I just hadto get that out.
Bros > Hos
My oneitis, the girl I've wanted for 4 years, just broke up with her BF. I was like, "yes...I'm moving in."
But today in the halls, I saw the guys face, and all I saw was pain. And I'm like, "sh1t....I can't do this." Call me a pvssy, but right after they break up and stuff, I can't just go in and kick him while he's down. If anything I will just go to dances and stuff with the girl, but not make it offcial. Seriously..this guy was serious about the girl and was funny, provided everything etc. but he got dumped....
I'll never forget the look on his face though. It said to me, "AFK, please don't do this to me." It was pitiful, but then again, grudges are no fun, and I'm not going to mess sh1t up. It's hard to make the right decision....
but your situation isdifferent from mine. I just hadto get that out.
strong like bull
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a lot of girls let sorry-ass chump BFs hang on them, until someone better comes around. most girls would rather have an "okay" BF than be alone; because in their eyes, their friends would think of them as losers if they couldnt keep a bf to show off to one another.
so, lets say YOURE someone better. are you going to miss out on what could be an OUTSTANDING connection, just so some random dude doesnt get his AFC heart broken?
bros before hoes has its place - WITH BROS. close friends! people you know and trust as your brothers keeper! not random dorks!
some GF/BFs you should leave alone, but with all due respect, you'll miss out on a lot of great opportunities in life if youre constantly worried about stepping on somebody elses toes.
-SLB
so, lets say YOURE someone better. are you going to miss out on what could be an OUTSTANDING connection, just so some random dude doesnt get his AFC heart broken?
bros before hoes has its place - WITH BROS. close friends! people you know and trust as your brothers keeper! not random dorks!
some GF/BFs you should leave alone, but with all due respect, you'll miss out on a lot of great opportunities in life if youre constantly worried about stepping on somebody elses toes.
-SLB
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