"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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On girls with BFs

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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DJoneday

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I don't think a DJ should need to hit on a girl who has a BF. I don't want guys hitting on girls I'm with (it'll happen, but I don't respect that), so why I should I be right in hitting on another guys girl?

There's more fish in the sea, and if she's single later it's alright.... while a girl's with someone it's not only an ******* move, but her boyfriend probably is either ripped or has friends who are ripped, and you don't want to get your sh!t rocked and your reputation screwed over for some chick.
 

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What are y'alls philosophies on DJing girls with boyfriends?

Don't do it. My easiest reply yet. :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I wouldn't. Main reason: The bf might kick your ass (see: Street Fight Stories to see what happened to a poor SOB who didn't take "no" as an answer from my girl.)
 

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um, sorry to be a nag, but run a search, this is one of the most common questions asked. For the record, it dependss on the situation is my answer (but in general leave her alone)
 

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I wouldnt fully DJ a girl with a BF. I would kind of 'plant the seeds', if you will. Do a little flirting, enough to let her know you are interested, but dont go all out and dont go calling er up every day trying to hang out.

Part of this is just out of mutual respect. I know some DJs dont play by any rules, but I know I would flip my **** if I knew a guy was pursuing my girl, so if I know the guy and he is a good person (not some ****) then I wont pursue it out of respect.
 

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What if the girl with the b/f is pursuing you?

Dont wanna hijack this thread but i know this chick will call her (carmen) she has been with her b/f for like a year ive known her like 6 months.

So carmen is showing me lots of signs of intrest but i play it cool since every guy she knows gives her all the attention she wants and i just ignore her.

Tease her all the time ****y/funny make fun of her truck her shoes etc. Like i asked her to let me borrow a doller of course she gave it to me, then i asked for another doller to buy a coke so carmen walked all the way to the coke machine and bought me a coke.

Then i guess she felt like i used her since i got 2 dollers off her so the next day she asked me for 1 doller im like ok since i owe you atleast 2 dollers then she ask for another im like i aint givin you ****.

So she beggs me i say your gonna have to give me a lap dance she says no, so i say show me sum skin she raises her shirt up and shows me her bra, and im like thats it so i turn around and she says come here and flashes her tits at me lol.

She also took my god dam cell phone and was lookin at all the chicks numbers i had and said she was gonna beat one of them up since she didnt like them.

So she stuck it in her pocket and wouldnt give it back so im like im going to have to frisk you i turn her around start at the top go to the bottom and grab her ass and say alright your clean

So yea i know her b/f hates me i was walkin to my car and he saw me and just mean mugged me and pulled off real fast with his truck rofl.

And then this afc that likes her was like what did you do to her she likes you alot. rofl
 

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I think you should just have a respect for a fellow DJ. But if he is some *sshole b*tch, then leave your calling card all over that girls *ss.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by AnkleBreaker
What if the girl with the b/f is pursuing you?
Same situation here. I think she's dumping her BF for me....but not officially dumped yet. School just started and I guess she doesn't wanna hurt him. This guy is REALLY attached to her, and they're been together for a little over 1 year.

I don't wanna backstab this guy, being the reason he loses the love of his life. I'm so confused.

Anyways, so far we have: Don't mess with unless the guy is an ass. Any other pointers?
 

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Simple: I don't ever ask if she has a bf, I assume she doesn't.
If she goes ot my school though, I wouldn't touch a chick with a bf because Grudges are no fun.
Unless i was drunk of course. then ***** is *****. I have friends to abck me up in that situation :)

If she goes to a diff school and you find otu after DJing ehr for a motnh with good results..I'd stop pursuing..btu if she makes a move, its all on her shoulders.

I guess i'm an *******.
 

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big bump, pretty much i'm in a smiliar situation with this girl who has a boyfriend.


I gave her a little bit of attention, talked to her in halls, kinoed her a tad etc etc. then kinda ignored her for a while and stuff. anyways this girl started to really get flirtatious with me and grabbed my arms and started to kino me. then we were talking and randomly she blurted out she has a boyfriend blah blah, i ignore it. now this girl seems to be showing me interest but she does have a boyfriend but he goes to another school. Should i try to pursue this?? Is she interested in me as a boyfriend to replace her current boyfriend or just as a friend that she flirts with. Yeah i know i'm overanalyzing this but damn. I don't really wanna ruin it cause i can use her as social proof for other women.
 

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Originally posted by That_Guy49
What are y'alls philosophies on DJing girls with boyfriends?
A DJ wouldn't try to get a girl with a boyfriend.

A DJ would find another gal worthy of him.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Re: Re: On girls with BFs

Originally posted by idiot_boyfriend
A DJ wouldn't try to get a girl with a boyfriend.

A DJ would find another gal worthy of him.

Ditto, i find it dishonorable to DJ another girl who already has a relationship going.
 

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But what if her bf lives 7 hours away? I've been pursuing a chic who's bf lives 7 hours away and its mutual interest but she still says "I like him very much" She just seems so. . . right for me. Granted I dont believe in the whole "one" thing, but I could list 10 things we have in common off of the top of my head. We've already hung out, and gone on a coupld dates. Hell, we even kissed, but she is still "boyfriended" in her words. I think she'll come alround, but I can feel the oneitis coming over already . . .
 

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normally I dont give a fvck about honor

But Bros before Hos.

generally, anyway.
if the guy's an idiot, he doesnt count:D
 

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Honor > All


Bros > Hos



My oneitis, the girl I've wanted for 4 years, just broke up with her BF. I was like, "yes...I'm moving in."

But today in the halls, I saw the guys face, and all I saw was pain. And I'm like, "sh1t....I can't do this." Call me a pvssy, but right after they break up and stuff, I can't just go in and kick him while he's down. If anything I will just go to dances and stuff with the girl, but not make it offcial. Seriously..this guy was serious about the girl and was funny, provided everything etc. but he got dumped....

I'll never forget the look on his face though. It said to me, "AFK, please don't do this to me." It was pitiful, but then again, grudges are no fun, and I'm not going to mess sh1t up. It's hard to make the right decision....

but your situation isdifferent from mine. I just hadto get that out.
 

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a lot of girls let sorry-ass chump BFs hang on them, until someone better comes around. most girls would rather have an "okay" BF than be alone; because in their eyes, their friends would think of them as losers if they couldnt keep a bf to show off to one another.

so, lets say YOURE someone better. are you going to miss out on what could be an OUTSTANDING connection, just so some random dude doesnt get his AFC heart broken?

bros before hoes has its place - WITH BROS. close friends! people you know and trust as your brothers keeper! not random dorks!

some GF/BFs you should leave alone, but with all due respect, you'll miss out on a lot of great opportunities in life if youre constantly worried about stepping on somebody elses toes.

-SLB
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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