On a trip - when a girl start ignoring you

[RedScorpion]

Hey guys, quick question for you all. I think I have the answer already but want to double check.

I’m on a trip currently and things were seemingly going fairly well with this one girl (nothing happened yet). Sharing drinks, food, lots of banter. However, at one point she started distancing, ignoring (like right directly after I thought we clicked). Basically paying attention to everyone else. Tried reinitiating with her but it’s not the same really. She basically feels like a wall to me. I’m theorizing that she is stopping herself from getting too close to someone that will eventually fly away soon. But I could be wrong about that.

My idea is to reflect her attitude. She’s ignoring me, so I’ll ignore her (without it being too obvious). She’s paying attention to others, so will I. Eventually we’ll go our separate ways and that will be the end of that.

Sound plan? Or any other advice you guys might give?

 

[simongtown]

What do you mean you're on a "trip" with a girl? Is she your wife? Is she the mother of your children? If not, just ditch her and enjoy the trip. Your interest level in her is higher than her in you (sounds like zero interest actually), so move on.

 

[R.U.G.]

If you are not in a relationship and it's fresh, then this is a telltale sign of the future with her. Don't lose your composure. Just mingle with other women. When she sees that you are not playing her game, she'll come over to you to attempt to get your attention again.

 

[wifehunter]

Kitty Kitty needs her space.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

The easiest way to gain/regain someone's attention is to withdraw our own; women are experts at this. The worst way is to try to force your attention on someone.

Yes, pull back, act like everything is normal, treat her like one of the gang until she starts escalating.

 

[nismo-4]

This one needs space, so nut on another girl's face.

Case closed.

 

[RedScorpion]

Thanks guys. Yeah this one is slightly annoying since she’s the guide for the tour. She’s keen on doing her own thing, paying plenty of attention on a couple of the taken guys. Nothing crazy attractive about them (average, conservative, here with wife/gf. No muscle or anything like that). But she’ll address others plenty as well but basically minimal eye contact/addressing me. So basically a complete flip of attention for her towards me, since she was seemingly keen on me just a few days prior. Really the most annoying thing is the major flip - into me quite a bit, and then nothing/ignoring. Seemingly out of nowhere (or maybe something triggered her). I hate these girls so ****ing much.

Yeah it’s a slight bit of a vent. If it was another person on the tour I could just go around and not deal with them. But the guide is always there of course. So dealing with someone in your face always a bit.

Otherwise I’m getting along great with all the other women on the tour (funnily enough). Old or young or whatever. Just a bit more time to be done I guess.

 

[simongtown]

She's leading a tour but not paying exclusive attention to you. And you're mad about this? She's working dude. Plus, she's not interested.

 

[RedScorpion]

I’m not concerned about exclusive attention.

 

[jaymbrs]

Honestly, she was probably just being nice at first then sensed you wanted something more and realized that she needs to withdraw in order to remain professional for the sake of the trip.