She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
tick37 said:He won't back off because he doesn't know what playing the game really means. He'll be available every time she wants to chat.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DonGorgon said:Like i said you need to do a hit and run away fast..
In the end al that matters is wether you sleep with her or not... she i definately not worth anything more.My Name is Nobody said:lol i still think she was BS'ing me about the abuse.. come on, it was a HUGE test!!
DonGorgon said:In the end al that matters is wether you sleep with her or not... she i definately not worth anything more.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So you would be in an LTR with her..?My Name is Nobody said:Why do you say that? As long as it was just a joke, I think it's funny.
DonGorgon said:So you would be in an LTR with her..?
hmmm... true lets all wait and see.My Name is Nobody said:I have no idea can I get past meeting her first?
I don't see how you read that as a joke.HB8: the first person who molested me was my brothers best friend who he still talks about to this day when I am around
HB8: I found a picture of her at oneof my birthday parties the other day and flipped out, I cried and ripped it up, I mean I have her face like imprinted in my head but to see her sitting next to a little me so small and innocent, I threw up
MNIN: that's raw I don't know how to respond
HB8: yeah, it is alot to take in
HB8: ok so I am tearing up just thinking about this, I usually don't get so emotional but I am sure not feeling well is contributng to me not being able to separate so can we talk about something else? If you have questions, that is cool, I am an open book, just not right now, ok?
HB8: brb
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Nighthawk said:I don't see how you read that as a joke.
Neither do I....Nighthawk said:I don't see how you read that as a joke.
DonGorgon said:Neither do I....
I have had that happen and yes i believed it and yes she was a very beautiful psychotic b!tch.... I F'ed her but did not run fast enough and had a hard time extricating myself from her grasp as she begged me to be her man ... cause her Ex man was in jail for trying to kill her...LOL and she had the scars to prove it.My Name is Nobody said:Come on if the first time you chat with a girl off the web told you that right off the bat, you would believe it?
Maybe I just don't want to believe it.
DonGorgon said:I have had that happen and yes i believed it and yes she was a very beautiful psychotic b!tch.... I F'ed her but did not run fast enough and had a hard time extricating myself from her grasp as she begged me to be her man ... cause her Ex man was in jail for trying to kill her...LOL and she had the scars to prove it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
. . . And how do we know this is a woman?Nighthawk said:Women rarely pretend to have been abused for a laugh.
Agreed, I'm going to call her now and find out for sure.Phyzzle said:. . . And how do we know this is a woman?
No , you cant save her from her psychosis or her self... in fact she will hurt you...My Name is Nobody said:Well dammit man, give me the lowdown on how you met her and fukked her. Forget analyzing her psychological profile, let's help a brother out. It's not like I will be continuing the abuse on her, so tell me about your experience.
My Name is Nobody said:Agreed, I'm going to call her now and find out for sure.
DonGorgon said:LOL..
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.