Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
tick37 said:He won't back off because he doesn't know what playing the game really means. He'll be available every time she wants to chat.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
DonGorgon said:Like i said you need to do a hit and run away fast..
In the end al that matters is wether you sleep with her or not... she i definately not worth anything more.My Name is Nobody said:lol i still think she was BS'ing me about the abuse.. come on, it was a HUGE test!!
DonGorgon said:In the end al that matters is wether you sleep with her or not... she i definately not worth anything more.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
So you would be in an LTR with her..?My Name is Nobody said:Why do you say that? As long as it was just a joke, I think it's funny.
DonGorgon said:So you would be in an LTR with her..?
hmmm... true lets all wait and see.My Name is Nobody said:I have no idea can I get past meeting her first?
I don't see how you read that as a joke.HB8: the first person who molested me was my brothers best friend who he still talks about to this day when I am around
HB8: I found a picture of her at oneof my birthday parties the other day and flipped out, I cried and ripped it up, I mean I have her face like imprinted in my head but to see her sitting next to a little me so small and innocent, I threw up
MNIN: that's raw I don't know how to respond
HB8: yeah, it is alot to take in
HB8: ok so I am tearing up just thinking about this, I usually don't get so emotional but I am sure not feeling well is contributng to me not being able to separate so can we talk about something else? If you have questions, that is cool, I am an open book, just not right now, ok?
HB8: brb
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Nighthawk said:I don't see how you read that as a joke.
Neither do I....Nighthawk said:I don't see how you read that as a joke.
DonGorgon said:Neither do I....
I have had that happen and yes i believed it and yes she was a very beautiful psychotic b!tch.... I F'ed her but did not run fast enough and had a hard time extricating myself from her grasp as she begged me to be her man ... cause her Ex man was in jail for trying to kill her...LOL and she had the scars to prove it.My Name is Nobody said:Come on if the first time you chat with a girl off the web told you that right off the bat, you would believe it?
Maybe I just don't want to believe it.
DonGorgon said:I have had that happen and yes i believed it and yes she was a very beautiful psychotic b!tch.... I F'ed her but did not run fast enough and had a hard time extricating myself from her grasp as she begged me to be her man ... cause her Ex man was in jail for trying to kill her...LOL and she had the scars to prove it.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
. . . And how do we know this is a woman?Nighthawk said:Women rarely pretend to have been abused for a laugh.
Agreed, I'm going to call her now and find out for sure.Phyzzle said:. . . And how do we know this is a woman?
No , you cant save her from her psychosis or her self... in fact she will hurt you...My Name is Nobody said:Well dammit man, give me the lowdown on how you met her and fukked her. Forget analyzing her psychological profile, let's help a brother out. It's not like I will be continuing the abuse on her, so tell me about your experience.
My Name is Nobody said:Agreed, I'm going to call her now and find out for sure.
DonGorgon said:LOL..
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.