That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
tick37 said:He won't back off because he doesn't know what playing the game really means. He'll be available every time she wants to chat.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
DonGorgon said:Like i said you need to do a hit and run away fast..
In the end al that matters is wether you sleep with her or not... she i definately not worth anything more.My Name is Nobody said:lol i still think she was BS'ing me about the abuse.. come on, it was a HUGE test!!
DonGorgon said:In the end al that matters is wether you sleep with her or not... she i definately not worth anything more.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
So you would be in an LTR with her..?My Name is Nobody said:Why do you say that? As long as it was just a joke, I think it's funny.
DonGorgon said:So you would be in an LTR with her..?
hmmm... true lets all wait and see.My Name is Nobody said:I have no idea can I get past meeting her first?
I don't see how you read that as a joke.HB8: the first person who molested me was my brothers best friend who he still talks about to this day when I am around
HB8: I found a picture of her at oneof my birthday parties the other day and flipped out, I cried and ripped it up, I mean I have her face like imprinted in my head but to see her sitting next to a little me so small and innocent, I threw up
MNIN: that's raw I don't know how to respond
HB8: yeah, it is alot to take in
HB8: ok so I am tearing up just thinking about this, I usually don't get so emotional but I am sure not feeling well is contributng to me not being able to separate so can we talk about something else? If you have questions, that is cool, I am an open book, just not right now, ok?
HB8: brb
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nighthawk said:I don't see how you read that as a joke.
Neither do I....Nighthawk said:I don't see how you read that as a joke.
DonGorgon said:Neither do I....
I have had that happen and yes i believed it and yes she was a very beautiful psychotic b!tch.... I F'ed her but did not run fast enough and had a hard time extricating myself from her grasp as she begged me to be her man ... cause her Ex man was in jail for trying to kill her...LOL and she had the scars to prove it.My Name is Nobody said:Come on if the first time you chat with a girl off the web told you that right off the bat, you would believe it?
Maybe I just don't want to believe it.
DonGorgon said:I have had that happen and yes i believed it and yes she was a very beautiful psychotic b!tch.... I F'ed her but did not run fast enough and had a hard time extricating myself from her grasp as she begged me to be her man ... cause her Ex man was in jail for trying to kill her...LOL and she had the scars to prove it.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
. . . And how do we know this is a woman?Nighthawk said:Women rarely pretend to have been abused for a laugh.
Agreed, I'm going to call her now and find out for sure.Phyzzle said:. . . And how do we know this is a woman?
No , you cant save her from her psychosis or her self... in fact she will hurt you...My Name is Nobody said:Well dammit man, give me the lowdown on how you met her and fukked her. Forget analyzing her psychological profile, let's help a brother out. It's not like I will be continuing the abuse on her, so tell me about your experience.
My Name is Nobody said:Agreed, I'm going to call her now and find out for sure.
DonGorgon said:LOL..
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.