Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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OMFGBBQ! Caught myself *supplicating* (jesus h christ)

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I'm not perfect, but I take pride in never supplicating. I consider it a speciality of mine.

So here I am reading mASF and feeling this *guilt* that HBTallgirl is just coming straight over to my place tomorrow, whereas I wanted to take her mini golfing first.

Keep in mind, this 'desire' to take her mini golfing had been riding in my subconscious for a while. It had never actually, fully surfaced consciously.

I don't want to go kick a fricking golf ball around... I WAS PLANNING TO SUPPLICATE!

Jesus.

This scares me. This is a very basic AFC behaviour. Granted, I didn't actually *do* it, but I was subconsciously thinking about it.

Society's program is clearly still lingering somewhere in my head. Frick.

I suppose the moral of this post is: ALWAYS WATCH your intent, however subtle, however unconscious.

Sigh, I wish I knew other players in real life. I do know naturals, but they would think websites like this are lame. I wish I knew other people *learning* to be players in real life.

Because if I knew such people, we could "debug" each other's actions and look for stupid beliefs like this.

I think I'm going to go write a journal of the past few days in great detail and see if I can catch myself supplicating anywhere else.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MercutioTHEGREAT

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I must be stupid!!

WTF is supplicating??
 

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Originally posted by MercutioTHEGREAT
I must be stupid!!

WTF is supplicating??
sup·pli·cate Audio pronunciation of "supplicate" ( P ) Pronunciation Key (spl-kt)
v. sup·pli·cat·ed, sup·pli·cat·ing, sup·pli·cates
v. tr.

1. To ask for humbly or earnestly, as by praying.
2. To make a humble entreaty to; beseech.


v. intr.

To make a humble, earnest petition; beg.
 

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(In other words, I was trying to trade a 'fun date' for 'sex'... i.e. I was planning to use a very subtle form of BEGGING.)
 

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This post makes no sense to me, what is that you want to say or have a question?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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He is saying that he fell into the subconscious thinking that if he took her to play miniature golf and paid money to show her a fun time that she would "reward" him with sex. He didn't actually WANT to play golf...he subconsciously thought he had to take her on a date to "earn" sex.
 

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Alphathree, bro, you've helped me in the past, but these absolutly idiotic threads you've been making lately have got to stop.
 

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Originally posted by djaus111000
omfgbbq? please enlighten me
Yes... thats what I was thinking. What in the buggering hell does that mean?!

"Oh my fvcking god.. bumraped by queers?!"

:confused:

Please explain.
 

frivolousz21

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first off..I thought u said you were in love?

or is that another alphatree.

and thats not supplication.

thats wanting to get laid...and paying for it in a indirectway.


chill and have fun.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DJDamage

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You are worring too much Alphatree.

Remember the goal of the date: TO HAVE A GOOD TIME WITH HER, no matter where you are and what you are doing and in doing so you will probably end up getting more good time (sex).

Supplicating was if you were getting nothing from this date. If you took her mini golfing and she had a good time and you didn't because you really didn't like her company and was only doing it so she can like you more and hopefully want to sleep with you.

If you do all that and you still are not getting some ass by the end of the date then this is the ultimate form of AFC supplicating. (I was guilty of doing that myself back in the AFC days.....)
 

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omfgbbq...?

i agree, please enlighten those who do not speak like 13 year old girls.
 

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Enlightenment:

It's kind of a joke on message boards because people use so many acronyms. Just a joke.

OMGWTFBBQ!!!!111!!1oneone!!!11exclamationpoint


Don't post on many boards, huh?
 
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