"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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OMFGBBQ! Caught myself *supplicating* (jesus h christ)

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I'm not perfect, but I take pride in never supplicating. I consider it a speciality of mine.

So here I am reading mASF and feeling this *guilt* that HBTallgirl is just coming straight over to my place tomorrow, whereas I wanted to take her mini golfing first.

Keep in mind, this 'desire' to take her mini golfing had been riding in my subconscious for a while. It had never actually, fully surfaced consciously.

I don't want to go kick a fricking golf ball around... I WAS PLANNING TO SUPPLICATE!

Jesus.

This scares me. This is a very basic AFC behaviour. Granted, I didn't actually *do* it, but I was subconsciously thinking about it.

Society's program is clearly still lingering somewhere in my head. Frick.

I suppose the moral of this post is: ALWAYS WATCH your intent, however subtle, however unconscious.

Sigh, I wish I knew other players in real life. I do know naturals, but they would think websites like this are lame. I wish I knew other people *learning* to be players in real life.

Because if I knew such people, we could "debug" each other's actions and look for stupid beliefs like this.

I think I'm going to go write a journal of the past few days in great detail and see if I can catch myself supplicating anywhere else.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MercutioTHEGREAT

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I must be stupid!!

WTF is supplicating??
 

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Originally posted by MercutioTHEGREAT
I must be stupid!!

WTF is supplicating??
sup·pli·cate Audio pronunciation of "supplicate" ( P ) Pronunciation Key (spl-kt)
v. sup·pli·cat·ed, sup·pli·cat·ing, sup·pli·cates
v. tr.

1. To ask for humbly or earnestly, as by praying.
2. To make a humble entreaty to; beseech.


v. intr.

To make a humble, earnest petition; beg.
 

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(In other words, I was trying to trade a 'fun date' for 'sex'... i.e. I was planning to use a very subtle form of BEGGING.)
 

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This post makes no sense to me, what is that you want to say or have a question?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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He is saying that he fell into the subconscious thinking that if he took her to play miniature golf and paid money to show her a fun time that she would "reward" him with sex. He didn't actually WANT to play golf...he subconsciously thought he had to take her on a date to "earn" sex.
 

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Alphathree, bro, you've helped me in the past, but these absolutly idiotic threads you've been making lately have got to stop.
 

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Originally posted by djaus111000
omfgbbq? please enlighten me
Yes... thats what I was thinking. What in the buggering hell does that mean?!

"Oh my fvcking god.. bumraped by queers?!"

:confused:

Please explain.
 

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first off..I thought u said you were in love?

or is that another alphatree.

and thats not supplication.

thats wanting to get laid...and paying for it in a indirectway.


chill and have fun.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You are worring too much Alphatree.

Remember the goal of the date: TO HAVE A GOOD TIME WITH HER, no matter where you are and what you are doing and in doing so you will probably end up getting more good time (sex).

Supplicating was if you were getting nothing from this date. If you took her mini golfing and she had a good time and you didn't because you really didn't like her company and was only doing it so she can like you more and hopefully want to sleep with you.

If you do all that and you still are not getting some ass by the end of the date then this is the ultimate form of AFC supplicating. (I was guilty of doing that myself back in the AFC days.....)
 

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omfgbbq...?

i agree, please enlighten those who do not speak like 13 year old girls.
 

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Enlightenment:

It's kind of a joke on message boards because people use so many acronyms. Just a joke.

OMGWTFBBQ!!!!111!!1oneone!!!11exclamationpoint


Don't post on many boards, huh?
 
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