"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Oldest age woman you'd have sex with?
- Thread starter Reyaj
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
9-3enthusiast
Senior Don Juan
I've heard of it happening, but not experienced it myself.... yet! - All post-menopausal women I've been with have had no problem as far as that's concerned.
I think it can happen due to hormonal changes - and so many these days get hormone replacement therapy if they have that problem and want to remain 'active'.
I suppose it's a similar principle to guys getting 'V' pills.
And the 'not as hard' thing in older men:
I found that fitness played a big part for me.
I did let myself get badly out of shape when I was married, I piled on a LOT of weight and began to suffer the dreaded 'not as hard with age' - then after the breakup I went full, 'No refined sugars', ate properly, started cycling for fitness again >>> Lost the excess weight >>> Got fit again...
Amazing the difference it made... It was like I was regenerating - I now look 10-12 yrs younger than I am, and physically I feel like I did in my 30s - including the contents of my pants.
I'm an even better prospect to a woman than I was in my 30s, because the guy down below reacts the same as it did at 30, but I'm now far more experienced, and have better self-control.
lost_blackbird
Master Don Juan
I'd take a HARD pass on all three of those and I'm 48. Ye gods, they are as rough as a badgers arse.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You'll "let" them give you some head if you were in a long drought, and after doing so you might "consider" letting them give you some pvssy.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TheCharmingGuy
Senior Don Juan
I could never do any of those either. They all look like they should either be a 3rd grade teacher or in prison.
Reyaj
Master Don Juan
So wait if I read that right, you hooked up with one of your daughter's friends?
9-3enthusiast
Senior Don Juan
Well, Step-daughter's friend, but yep! More than one (all on separate occasions).
On that occasion it was more of a friend-of-a-friend..
I realise the term 'daughter's friend' doesn't sound good - but we're talking about women in their 30s and 40s here (Stepdaughter is 38)
All single free-agents at the time, and certainly NOT any of the ones that I've known since they were kids.
I'm not completely without scruples - LOL